If you are not successful
If you are not successful you may not be programmed for success. In the end everybody is successful in many, most or even all things they do, so if you don’t feel you’re successful you may not be programmed for it, may not have learned how to enjoy success.
And that is very easy to learn, although it may take some time before you see results.
Program yourself for success
It is very easy to program yourself for success. You may be amazed. The basics are very simple:
- Find a very small thing you think you can do and finish every day. For me, initial author of this page, it started with making the bed every day. Or do the dishes as Leo Babauta suggests.
- After having done this daily thing, just realize that you have done it and let it sink in, be proud of it.
Is it really that simple? Yes, it is. And if you don’t manage the thing you started with, just choose something smaller, until you have found something that you are finishing every day.
Start with small things
So start with small things and be proud of it. And when you are comfortable with this first small thing you can add a little thing. For me that is a daily small walk. And it was a daily blog post on my personal blog, the predecessor of this site.
Just go slow
It is very important to go slow with this, especially if you are easily pressured or if you tend to ‘beat yourself up’. Most important is that you really finish things on a regular basis and really feel good, feel successful about it, no matter what else is going on in your life. Don’t think about anything else, just park everything else if needed if you have a pile of ‘should do’s’. Just enjoy the small daily success.
And slowly you will find that you can add something or make things a bit bigger. And if they get too big, just stop, just lower down your expecations and go back to the smaller things or a smaller new thing or just be happy with what you are doing already.
That simple? Yes, that simple.
And you can start again. And I realized that most when I found out that I had not made the bed for a few days after I had moved to another room. The worst thing was that I had not even realized that I had not made the bed, but when I finally did I also realized it had been kind of logical I had forgotten to make the bed. As I had moved suddenly from one room to another with a very weird setup for the bed:
As you can see I am now sleeping in a big bed with one one side some improvised mattresses and beddings. And in the photo it looks pretty clean again, but when I moved in there was a lot of stuff on the bed where I was not sleeping, so it was a pretty messy bed and situation to live in, sleep in.
But I started again, making the bed, as I found that I can always start again, no matter what it is.