The more I learn about codependency the more I realize I need to do something. And it seems nobody can do it for me. And they say it’s not easy. And it isn’t, as it indeed seems other people don’t see or realize what is going on, it seems I am indeed acting ‘weird’. As today I said ‘no’ to someone and he kept going on with what I felt like he was just annoying me. And yes, I know I have spoiled this person with always giving in. And he has a very strong will and he is very sociable and it seems I’m not. And the strange thing is it seems he can get away with anything. And I feel I can’t, or maybe don’t want to.
So how we teach each other things in a gentle way, without breaking things, without blackmail. And it is so easy to say to cooperate, negotiate or compromise, but how do you do that when the other person appears to be completely unreasonable?
Anyhow, I am starting to learn that ‘no’ is indeed a complete sentence. And that I don’t need to have excuses of feel guilty when saying now, when I just don’t want something. But it’s not easy.
So I just want to share the following ‘quote’ I found when searching for my daily inspirational quote for today:
“No is a complete sentence and so often we forget that.
When we don’t want to do something we can simply smile and say no.
We don’t have to explain ourselves, we can just say “No”.
Early on my journey I found developing the ability to say no expanded my ability to say yes and really mean it.
My early attempts at saying no were often far from graceful but with practice even my no came from a place of love.
Love yourself enough to be able to say yes or no.”