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How to plan

I am starting to realize that I’m not a good planner and that maybe I’ve been planning goals while it’s better to plan activities. Or that I have not been planning SMART goals, where maybe the most important thing was that I have been mixing activities and goals.

Anyhow, I guess this post goes back to my recent experience that i am very successful in finishing planned activities and that that made me realize that I am very successful at what I’m doing, although I’m not yet successful at reaching goals.

Still struggling though, as to me achieving my goals and dreams is important and would make me feel successful.

And the last few days I figured out my goals and dreams seem to be too far away from where I am now which is kind of demotivating.

So I guess I need to find a way to split up my goals in some kind of sub goals that can be planned over time.

And think of activities of which I’m sure that would bring me closer to my goals.

Belief

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I’m still struggling why things are not yet as I want them to be, what stops me getting what I want, even though I think I am already doing a lot of things in the right direction.

I’m starting to believe(?!) that basically it’s all about belief, belief in what is possible, what can be. Next to this comes desire and faith, but belief may be the most essential.

Last night and also just now while reading again Think and Grow Rich I realized I have some big limited beliefs and it feels these are blocking me.

Last night I tried to make these limiting beliefs more visible as they are so hidden, seem to hide themselves in all kinds of thoughts that seem to be so logical, so obvious.

I started to re-read the book as I do believe like what is stated there that it takes no hard labor or hard work to achieve your goals and dreams and that may be one of my biggest limiting beliefs: think that I need to work long and hard to ‘get there’.

So what are your limiting beliefs?

Coaching

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I felt a bit alone and lost and started to think about coaching. As you may or may not know part of the background of this site is that I want it to serve as a coaching site for people who are looking for success in life.

Thinking a bit further I realized I don’t have a coach and don’t have a manager while as far as I know most successful, or at least famous, people have managers and coaches. Think of coaches and trainers for individuals and teams in sports. Think of managers of singers and bands. Think of singing instructors or teachers for famous singers. Think of agents or agencies representing actors. Think of managers of actors.

In a way I consider myself as a professional and I now know I’ve been working alone too long without a coach or manager or whatever. Or a partner who is supportive, but mine is not really. So maybe look for a coach first before anything else as while doing something alone sometimes you may just not move anymore, not know what to do.

Can you be my coach or manager or agent?

Time to slow down and relax

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It seems I’m pushing myself way too much, so even on this Saturday I felt quite pressured. Last year If found inspiration in the book Think and Grow Rich from Napoleon HIll. One of the things he suggests is something like ‘continuous action towards your goal’. Together with many other things he suggests I believe that ‘continous action towards a goal’ will indeed make it certain that you will reach your goal, any goal.

What I sometimes tend to forget is that the action needs to come from desire, meaning needs to come naturally. As also written earlier I lost the connection with my goal a bit, so my desire is at a very low level at the moment. So I guess before taking more ‘outward acton’ I first need to work on myself again, connect to myself again, fire up the desire again as action from only ‘power’ seems to be just tiring, not only for me, but also for other people.

And even though I believe in the thngs Napoleon HIll states about achieving success, I’m also starting to realize he may have missed some things, that some additions may be useful, some evaluation may be needed. The last is also maybe one of the reasons or maybe THE reason for this blog/site.

Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s all there, even the thing I’m writing about right now, like taking time to relax, but sometimes it may be too much hidden.

I think in the book it’s about planning. So whatever you are trying to achieve in life, don’t forget to relax, don’t forget to plan to relax.

Tunnel too long?

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I feel like I’m still in a bit a weird situation that somehow I create myself:

I know what I want, but it will take (quite) some time and effort to get there.
I found a way to do small things every day and finish them.
I noticed that I am able to finish all the small tasks I put to myself.

The main issue I’m dealing with right now is that I cannot see a direct connection between the small steps I’m making and the main goal I want to achieve.

What I also notice is that I often cannot find a proper ‘reward’ when I have finished a small step. I also notice that I’m sometimes satisfied after finishing a small task, but often also not.

So I’m very successful at finishing small tasks, where most of these tasks I think are in the direction of my goal, but I don’t feel satisfied.

I guess the answer lies in ‘planning’, but I found I’m not very good at that yet.

Maybe the main issue is that I did not found a way to deal with things that are beyond my control. Things that I feel may make all the small steps ‘useless’.

Another thing is there is an awful pile of ‘unfinished business’ to deal with. I decided to put it aside for now which I think is a good decision, however, it’s still there and somehow it’s still bothering me. Some progress also there though, as it’s not really growing anymore and I am working on a decision to try to make it smaller in very small steps.

And still, I believe virtually anything can be achieved.

So what’s the real issue here?

Thinking further, issues seem to be ‘too much to deal with as of the moment’ and ‘finding a way to relax while on the way, at the beginning of the road, with a lot of unfinished business from the past’.