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Long drive

I don’t feel really inspired and the first thing that came in my mind when feeling the need to put a title was ‘long drive’, so that is what the title of this post became. But as mostly, after writing, I may just put a fully different title, as often I wander from the subject I started a post with to something completely else. And I often wonder if that is the ‘right’ way to write a post, to write my blog items in this site, but I know there is no ‘right’ way, it is just my way. And I know that my posts are kind of a diary, and I read somewhere that a blog or posts in a blog should not be a diary (to be successful). So I often feel bad as part of this site, my blog, reads like a diary, yes, indeed, probably with not so much inspiring stuff for others.

But today, at the end of the day, after indeed a long drive, I don’t know really how to continue, as I am very tired, which is logical, as I woke up around six am this morning and right now it is almost 11.30pm and we drove most of the day. And even as I was not the driver, I am still tired.

So I guess I’ll call it quits for today, even though I wanted to write a little bit about the hardwood shop we passed by and the hardwood trees I bought. But I guess it’s enough as my mind doesn’t want to produce any more words right now, so maybe I’ll write about today tomorrow.

Hope inspiration

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Strange, maybe God has its ways. As today, and the last few days, holiday coming to an end, everything feels like it’s falling apart again. Hardly any customer requests or new customers. No meeting planned yet. Delay in going home, which makes me uneasy, as there are just things I want to finish at home. So right now I feel very uncomfortable, very pressured.

But maybe today’s quote from the url https://www.pinterest.com/pin/553450241681175308/ was just what I needed and might have just been the reason for the strange suggestion to look for a RoRo quote when I asked a friend what kind of quote I should send today.

So what’s next? Hope? ‘There is no hope’ is one of the things I once learned in a training, and somehow there is truth in that. Same as what I got from Seth Godin today, that there is no use of mere wishing. You need to do something also. But forcing things also doesn’t seem to work, or actually doesn’t work as I know from Abraham Hicks, and by own experience.

So maybe yes, for now, for today, for the remaining day of holiday, maybe just wait and relax and see what happens, see what other messages God has for me, what other messages will come my way. Maybe just, next to being relaxed, next to waiting, just be alert, alert to what is coming to me.

Control your emotions

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Control your emotions and separate business from private. That is what is said so easily and something also I read about leadership. So today I was put to the test and I failed miserably, failed even that much that I am still trembling and am missing the last night out with friends on a short holiday in Siargao.

So yes, thinking about weaknesses I better analyze what happened just about an hour ago again, as somehow I was drawn into something I know is kind of killing for me. And the setup is something I am talking to someone about something, maybe some private stuff or culture or emotions and somehow my partner bugs in and finds someone who will support him in what he is saying, something like he is right and I am wrong. So I feel attacked and I feel being a minority, which upsets me very much and somehow puts me on the defense or something. And I did quite well tonight up to a certain point keeping my mouth shut about certain things I consider private, something between my partner and me. And while writing I realize this is very weird, as normally I don’t mind so much talking about anything, but I know my partner prefers to keep some things between us.

So yes, of course I was the one opening up about something I never told anybody about, as I consider it private and I don’t want anybody to know, especially because of my partner. So in front of my partner I was making the mistake (again), not him, even though I feel kind of ‘set up’ into this kind of situation, this kind of conversation where I don’t feel comfortable with the people around, people supporting my partner, making me feel attacked. So when something like this happens, I feel even worse towards my partner than before, as it was me who made ‘the’ mistake, making him even more right about the negative things he is saying about me, the things he wants the support for from the people around, as he always wants to be ‘right’ and I am ‘always’ wrong.

So again, where I had a very nice conversation with one of our friends, or actually a friend of him, somehow he bugs in with his best friend and turns the conversation to something where those two people are supposed to support him in his being ‘right’ and me in my ‘being wrong’. And where to me most of those things are just ‘opinion’, to him it is about ‘me not understanding people’ me not reacting properly to social situations. And yes, those people often confirm that these things are ‘me being me’, so that’s not my problem. What is my problem is that mostly (‘always’) those people seem to confirm that I am the one socially not ‘correct’, meaning I am doing something ‘wrong’, meaning I am wrong.

So after my big mistake I decided to leave the conversation, even though the group was breaking up anyhow, because we were supposed to go out, have a beer or so, have our last night out. So nothing really happened, except that I was so upset and felt so bad that our ‘secret’ was out, that I decided that I didn’t want to join anymore. Which of course made me feel even worse, as this of course meant I was breaking the group again, meaning my partner was confirmed again about my social skills. And next that the not joining made me feel bad because it confirms my social inability, it also means I am missing out on a night out, even the last night out the group is together. A night I was kind of scared of, as it might become too late to my liking, but also a night that kind of came up naturally to just go out together and have fun together.

And yes, while writing this, I know it is all written too negative and that it’s not all as bad I feel and that it is not bad people knowing about what I consider one of our major problems. It may even be good. But the time and place and how it came together are just fully wrong, and one of the people present is the last person I want to talk to about this.

So what is there to learn and what is the real problem? Maybe something to think about. The main thing I think is that it is something repeating that gives my partner more power and that makes me feel bad and makes me feel bad in the eyes of other people.

So how can I prevent this in the future, as somehow I am drawn into situations like this and I don’t like the outcome.

Outliers

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Today I was talking about success and someone pointed me to the book Outliers of Malcolm Gladwell that she was apparently reading. So she gave me the book and I started reading, and right from the first chapter I realized it gives a new point of view additional or contrary of the Principles of Success as described by Napoleon Hill. And no, while writing I realize that it is not really contrary to the Principles of Success of Napoleon Hill, the things I have been following for quite a while now, but it shines some new light on why some people are more successful than others, or why you (read ‘I’) sometimes feel something isn’t right, something like that the Principles of Success can’t explain why e.g. Bill Gates is so super rich, so super successful.

And the book indeed explains why Bill Gates has been somehow ‘lucky’ being so extraordinary successful. And also explains why Andrew Carnegie achieved such unimaginable success. The explains that those people indeed were talented, worked hard and things like that. But it also explains that related to those people some more things like time and circumstances were in their favor.

And the books starts with a very simple sample that we all know, that there are early students and late students, related to the ‘cut off date’ that schools, or actually governments, set, that cause some students in the same year, the same grade, are older, months older than other students. And of course in later life a few months don’t really matter. But based on research it can be proved that those few months just make the difference for some people to pass the mark for ‘next stage’ in something, where other people don’t pass that mark. And in many areas of life, that ‘passing the mark’ means that you get more coaching or time or whatever that makes the difference bigger. And depending on the situation it means that in some areas those who have the advantage can be successful in that area and that those who don’t have the advantage have no chance in being successful in that specific area.

And it was quite comforting for me to read why Bill Gates has been so much more successful than I have been. As e.g. he was just in the right age bracket to jump on the ‘computer band wagon’ and be extraordinary successful. And I am just something like eight years older, meaning that I was just too late to jump on the bandwagon that Bill Gates and some other people, including Steve Jobs, to be ‘really successful’ in the ‘computer world’.

So this book, the ideas in this book of course mean that I am thinking what that means for the Principles of Success, for this site that is built around the Principles of Success. Like the book certainly confirms that ‘luck’ is somehow involved in being successful.

But looking at the Principles of Success as described by Napoleon Hill my gut feel says that the Principles of Success he describes still apply. And that these new insights just explains some of the reasons why some people are so extraordinary successful. As indeed, what I always felt, it appears that there is something involved in the extreme success that some people have. But that certainly doesn’t mean that applying the Principles of Success is invalid or something. And it also doesn’t mean that not anybody could achieve the success that those really successful people have had.

And thinking further, maybe Napoleon Hill does explain it, maybe it is included. As indeed, Napoleon Hill acknowledges something like Infinite Intelligence, some higher power helping us to achieve success, if we are open to it.

I was very grateful today

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I was very grateful today being shown in the house of some apparently very rich people, where before I would just have been jealous. But today I really enjoyed someone putting so much attention in a beautiful house on the beach, creating such a beautiful place.

So yes, it seems good things are coming closer to me, it seems I am getting closer to the success I am looking for, or actually the successes I am looking for.

So thank you, Infinite Intelligence, for letting this happen to me, thank you!