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Hope

I was so happy today as a request from a customer gave me so much hope. It appeared there was finally light at the end of the tunnel with this customer and that he somehow still trusts me. And hope that finally my investments would pay off, the enormous amount of hours I put in this real estate stuff.

And then it appeared I was not the only one in the race, that I’m not there yet. And it put me down a lot, indeed. As Morty Lefkoe says, it was the meaning I gave to this little extra information. Or maybe also the meaning I gave to the first event, the request for a quote. I thought I was already there, that I’m just the best, and I know I am in this case.

“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.” – Epicurus

So how to go on from here, with this post and with this project I so badly need. Indeed, it seem to be my emotions that are in the way. And I was reading again in Think and Grow Rich this morning. And I read more and more that it’s my weakness, our weaknesses that stand in the way towards success. So yes, maybe my biggest weakness is that I let my emotions, yes, let what?

But that was the weird thing and why I started this post. Napoleon Hill states hope as a positive emotion. And it worked, this hope I felt today from this simple request made me feel so good, made me feel alive, made me feel enthusiastic, it just made my day, it made me move, quite effortlessly, it also made me allow myself to take a break, a very well needed break, this time a real break.

And I was especially happy as this whole hope thing just made my day, confirming everything also about The Secret and such. So maybe better stay in the hope than in the fear, as I realize while writing this that what happened after was just fear.

Still, confusing, but something to think about more as it feels it is important to understand what happened just now and what’s the effect.

The Secret

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Wow, it’s time to turn the tone of my posts and maybe this website around as I guess most of my posts were about what I’m not happy with, what I don’t want. And it was deliberate, because I want to attract you, you, who were probably in the same situation as I was, unhappy, nothing seemed to work, things like that.

But it’s simple to turn that around, maybe not easy, but simple. You know, I just saw the movie “The Secret” again, or actually the first time for real. And that movie is all about the “Law of Attraction“. And it made me realize that probably most of my posts are about what I don’t want, not about what I want.

Maybe just write a bit about what I want, what I really want. And that’s not even that exciting I guess, although I do have some big dreams, but these last don’t really need to come true, they’re just big dreams. Actually I just want to work a bit, do some useful work I like and other people like me to do. Then travel a bit, just go to Davao or so every few months, yes with our own car. And travel the world a bit again, but the last maybe even more for my partner than for me as I already saw most of the world.

And I like the end of the movie, as it says what I also really believe: that all religions and such and all famous or successful say about the same. That everything is in the mind, that everything we create comes from our thoughts. That’s even the basic idea of the book Think and Grow Rich that was the origin of this site.

And looking at my life right now and also looking to some past (big) events related to the Law of Attraction it seems it’s really true. My life seems indeed reflecting the thoughts I have most in my mind. So whatever it is, I should be happy about it, as it means the Law of Attraction really works, even though I was not happy with what’s in my life until today, except for a few limited periods, a few years.

And thinking(?!) now, it’s indeed simple, but not really easy to apply the Law of Attraction for the good as most of us, including me, are so programmed with all kinds of beliefs like we have to work hard or do everything ourselves. But I know that is not true, it cannot be true, because what one physical human being can do is only so little. There must be more, there must be something more and apparently the only way to, well, be rich or something, is tapping into that ‘other power’ that indeed is inside ourselves, but also outside as it’s not directly visible on this physical plain we’re living our human life.

So be careful what you think or say. It’s also one of the strongest sentences in Think and Grow Rich like there should be large penalties on uttering negative words or statements to other people like things cannot be done. Things can be done.

So make sure you encourage people, encourage yourself. And while writing this I think that’s also what great leaders do: encourage people.

What’s next?

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So yes, many plans, many ideas, on track with my definite purpose as I have written down in my major desire document, so everything on track according Think and Grow Richand many other books and stuff about that type of thing.

But no, I don’t feeeeel it, as Lynn Grabhorn mentions so nice in “Excuse me, your life is waiting”. And I guess that’s also what’s meant in The Secret and indeed in Think and Grow Rich indirectly is meant. The passion is just missing.

I used to have passion as far as I remember, long time ago. I think until or around the time I was a teenager. So where did it go? Where did it go wrong? Where did I lose it? And yes, there were a few periods where I was excited, but as far as I remember relatively short periods. And if I read books and articles and look around me I’m not the only one, although many people appear to be OK on the outside, on Facebook. But from some I know the outside on e.g. Facebook has nothing or not much to do with their real life. Their real life is just really hard, not much fun, many worries.

And yes, be careful with thoughts and words, so maybe they are right to just ‘pretend’ on the outside, pretend everything is OK and fun. Maybe it helps to just only think and talk about the positive…

And weird, because I guess on the outside I also appear quite OK to most people. And somehow recently I’m also quite or even very happy. But my happiness is just like, well, quiet, inside. And maybe that’s ok, maybe that’s what happiness is for me.

But I miss the passion, the ‘going for it’. Somehow life has beaten that out of me, somehow I don’t want to take the risk anymore to be really passionate about it, go for it. Too many things went wrong, went down the drain.

And while writing this post I had two Skype calls which turned out very well. One with a client where I found that the client in the end had the same idea about what to do as I had and a second with Jeannette Seibly who basically just told me to stand up and be myself. So I guess that’s where this complaint post ends, with just realizing that I am good and have so much to offer, nothing more, nothing less.

Slow progress

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Well, it seems I’m in the middle of a dip with this project. I am writing a post every day and traffic is going down, so is visibility in Google. And my team hardly responds anymore, although this morning there was a very positive e-mail from our new team member Christian. Yes, maybe I should start counting the good, counting the things that are working, not (only) the things that don’t work.

And I know every project has a phase or phases like this. And I know that if I just continue in the end it will work out fine, something good will come out of it. But as you may understand, that doesn’t really help me now, as now it’s all a bit down.

Counting the good came from the ‘free signup document’ of Jeannette Seibly. You can go here to get the document. And it starts with counting ‘what worked’ today. So maybe just put here what worked for me today (actually she mentions week or quarter, but for me for now I’ll just use ‘today’):

I did make the bed, the small thing I do every day that made me feel successful (again). So that worked.
I planned to visit Nestlé and I did go. And I didn’t get the appointment I wanted, but I did get some useful information. So my action worked.
My main server kind of works again. It’s not fully ok, but I can use it and the most important data and functionality is there. So picking it up also worked.
I planned to work on a customer project and I did, even though it took me some time to get going. And my five minutes planned became more than an hour or so and I’m almost finished. So again, something worked.
I felt down and called my mother. Often we end in some kind of negative talk, but today it worked and I got kind of inspired by her. So today also this worked.
And I did update my resume and made a cover letter and actually this was beyond my planning. So again, something that worked.
And of course I sent my daily quote and I’m writing my daily blog item here now, so that also worked.

So then the next thing, what didn’t work:

Well, the computer didn’t really work as I want to, but it’s working good enough for what I need right now, so doesn’t really count for ‘didn’t work’.
I took quite a lot of ‘doing nothing time’ to get going, but somehow I needed it, so also, it’s more like a ‘did work’ than a ‘didn’t work’.
And I need to pay some bills, but still the phone and electricity are working. So also here, postponing payments didn’t really ‘not work’.
And I can’t think of anything else that really ‘didn’t work’. Weird.

So yes, weird. I keep on concluding that I’m pretty successful in everything I do, except that it doesn’t pay the bills. Maybe that’s something to analyze, something to think about.

So next thing: what would I want to be acknowledged for? Well, full phrases:

I would like to be acknowledged for not giving up, for moving on, no matter how bad the situation is.
I would like to be acknowledged for my daily posts, my daily writing in this site.
I would like to be acknowledged for sending my daily quote (but I am already by some people, so that’s ok I guess).
I would like to be acknowledged for all the work I do. I do a lot you see, I guess more than what the average person does.
I would like to be acknowledged for all the hard work I do, or actually did, even though the result sometimes is not there or not as expected.
And a private one: I would like be acknowledged for being ‘loving’. I guess this is the most important one as there is a whole story behind it.

So indeed, writing these things down is inspiring as Jeannette Seibly predicted. Maybe you should do the same.

Looking forward to your comments.

Not so inspiring

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Well, not so inspiring was my first feeling today about two things I heard. I visited a business partner of mine today and he told me his father was in bad shape after a stroke. And being Filipino he is spending all his time right now with his father as it seems he is the only one his father recognizes and accepts. And no real hope for recovery, as the family has no money for needed transplants and mentally his father is also not OK, which is probably permanent.

Today I also connected with a childhood friend and one of the first things she told me she had become a widow this year. Through illness of her husband. So you can imagine I just put ‘not so inspiring’ as the name of this post.

Also I didn’t get any response to my latest e-mail to my team. I was suggesting a date for my sample goal and just wanted them to be involved, get their approval. So my team is not yet working as it should and I’m not sure what to do next.

And business wise I still don’t know what to do. It seems I can’t create a team there also. And I’m not sure what to do with some customer requests. So again, I don’t really feel inspired or feel like inspiring you, putting some positive thinking.

And today I didn’t really feel like doing anything. I kept thinking that whatever I did in the past or not did, the result was the same: something not working.

And it’s weird, because somehow I have a lot more self confidence. Somehow I feel like I planted many seeds. Somehow I now know more what to do, how to achieve success, or better, live a useful life.

And somehow I am very successful recently. One of my team members even said to me a while ago that I am very successful, like building this site. And somehow I do have discipline, which I thought I didn’t have. I have been making the bed every day for months now. And I have sent my daily quote for months now, every day! And I have posted two blog items every day for the last few months. So I did achieve success, I did show some discipline.

And it even seems that I am very close to achieving my definite purpose as I wrote down in my personal desire document.

And going back to what I started with, some people in situations related to sickness and death, compared to them I am so much better off as with sickness and death everything stops, while I still have all the time and opportunities to do better, to achieve what I want to achieve.

So comparing, my situation is not that bad. There is life and life means hope. Isn’t that inspiring, life and hope?