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No decision?

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Everything seems to go better and better and still ‘little’ things can upset me very much, while I thought I could deal with ‘little’ things quite easily.

I have been out for a few days and just turned on the two computers that serve as my main servers in the house and the office. And it turned out that one of them, the one holding most of the data, didn’t start. It starts buzzing and it seems the disks and everything are running fine, but it just doesn’t ‘start’. And this made me very anxious (again). And especially the ‘being anxious’ annoys me as I know it’s not needed to be anxious as it’s actually not needed to be anxious about anything in life. Rationally of course.

And again, the whole thing goes back to fear, I think indeed the biggest enemy of success (and happiness). And it’s related enemy of success indecision.

You see, this whole computer thing can be easily solved, because I’m 99% sure that if I bring it to the computer shop tomorrow it will be fixed either tomorrow (Friday), probably otherwise Saturday and at the latest Monday. And most of the data I keep in duplicate, so I can do almost anything i want, even without this computer holding most of the data. So actually I already decided to just maybe first do a small check myself tomorrow morning and if it doesn’t work after just bring it to the shop. And it will be 99% sure back on Monday.

So what makes me anxious with this computer thing. Well, just thoughts like ‘it is my main server with most of my data so if it falls I may lose all this data’. And while writing this it seems this is even the biggest issue. So well, it could happen. But it’s not very likely. And even if it does happen, the data would probably still be there. And even if the data would be lost, I would still be able to work. So that’s all.

And yes, there are some more thoughts like that I’m just annoyed that I have to spend time on this while I have planned some other things. And that I probably need to pay the computer shop an outstanding amount which I don’t have the budget for right now.

And next to the anxiety about the above, the whole thing can be solved in one second by just deciding ‘I am going to check it tomorrow for maximum thirty minutes and if that doesn’t work I’ll bring it to the computer shop after lunch’. And then decide to leave it like that, finish.

And you know what’s the worst thing? I don’t even need that computer right now as the other does all the work I need to be done right now as I’m just using the internet and that’s just working. And I don’t really need that computer tomorrow as I’m quite sure all the work I want to do can just be done on the other computer.

So yes, all this anxiety and annoyance is just created by myself, by my own thoughts that trigger feelings and emotions. And as I said, the worst thing is that I even know that. And yes, I could just check that computer right now, but that just doesn’t make any sense and it would just be to ‘calm my mind’, not to really solve something.

So what’s inspiring about the above? Nothing I guess. And how is this related to success? Well, not really, at least not directly. But it is related to my mood and happiness as the whole thing makes me feel very stressed and basically makes me feel unhappy.

And as of now, now, now I can’t really figure out how to get rid of it except than realizing that this feeling is something I don’t want and try to figure out what I do want: feeling relaxed. And this helps right now, a bit.

So for you, well right now, just realize that above process may also apply to you, that your thoughts just can create anxiety and unhappiness while rationally that just doesn’t make any sense and is not needed. So just try to snap yourself out of it if you’re in it.

Don’t compare yourself to others, or to the world

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Today I (still) found myself in a very negative thinking pattern. And the reasons behind this negativity and sadness seem to be something like comparing yourself to others and (high) expectations.

I was hit yesterday with what a friend said, that I was beautiful, that if I would look inside, behind all the negativity, all the mud, all the dirt, I would see myself as I really am, I would see a diamond or diamonds. And I’m still not sure what hit me, as I know it’s true, but somehow I don’t feel it, can’t accept it, can’t deal with it. And I guess this is true for most people, so probably also for you.

How weird most human beings are, mostly seeing themselves as negative, telling themselves how bad they are, mostly telling themselves they’re not OK. And it seems it’s all about uprising, about culture, all about how often we have heard not to do something because it’s bad. But how can we be bad? We didn’t make ourselves, create ourselves, or maybe we did. We just ‘are’. And are baby’s bad? Are we bad when we are born?

So what is all this. Christian culture? Being born in sin? Or even Buddhism, having karma, being born with karma?

And why I am writing this? Well, I am still inspired by the words of Lynn Grabhorn that we have the right to be happy, that we have the right to wish for things, want things, where most cultures would consider ‘wanting’ something bad, or having a lot, especially money being bad. But why would it be bad to want something, or have a lot of money. In the end there is enough or even a lot of everything, including money. And does it hurt anybody to want things, have things, except maybe that others might be jealous? And even it it would hurt someone else, then still, what would be wrong with wanting something? We just are who we are.

And I want to finish with some paragraphs from the book of Lynn Grabhorn, as I think they are very, very true and not applying this stands in the way of a lot of happiness and success:

Now here’s the big news: you don’t have to be worthy of a blasted thing to have your desires.

You don’t have to prove, or witness, or demonstrate, or pass a moral test.

You don’t have to explain your reasons, or make excuses to your family, to yourself or to God.

You don’t have to be any more worthy or deserving, or trustworthy, or upstanding than you are now.

You only have to make one decision…, just one…, and that is to be happy.

But you will never start down that road until you allow your Wants – your dreams, your desires, your hankerings – to come out of the closet, not just peek around the corner of a cracked-open door, but come all the way out!

Like any hidden talent that you’ve either consciously or unconsciously known was there but didn’t feel comfortable bringing out, once you accept the fact that wanting is part of you, and that doing it sis really okay, it becomes fun. Joy starts to flow. You begin to vibrate differently, for when you are in joy with Life you cannot vibrate negatively and you cannot attract negatively, only positively.

When you are in joy with Life, you cannot feel insecure, ashamed, unworthy, unsafe, guilty, or inferior in any manner, because you aren’t vibrating there. You cannot feel lack of any kind. Nor can you attract it.

The only thing you will do as you begin to unlock your Wants is vibrate more joy, more abundance, and more freedom in your experience. Small price to pay for dreaming, wouldn’t you say?

And it makes no difference what you choose to dream! Choose your dream because it makes you happy, and you’ll vibrate it into your life. Dream the dream of joy, dream the dream of fulfillment, dream the dream of frivolity, but DREAM!

Having desires – wanting – is no more a sin than breathing. Never again think you have to justify your Wants. Just don’t! You cannot be justifying, defending or rationalizing – which is all negative flowing – and remain to your core energy.

You need to make no excuses to anything, anybody or any higher or lower authority for your desires. Certainly not to God. To do so is to turn your back on your own higher energy, thus denying your very existence, your divine right to Life. Contrary to common teachings, gaining happiness is your hallowed right of birth.

So let yourself go, and dream. You are already creating your life every moment of every day by how you think and vibrate; you might as well create it the way you’d like it to be.

So what are your dreams? Maybe long forgotten? Your own dreams, not the dreams of others?

Vibrations

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Well, yesterdays visit to a friend brought me four new books. I was offered to bring six, but i brought four. Law of Attraction?

They are1:

And the fourth just disappeared, very strange, or did I just bring three? I’m quite sure I brought four, but maybe that’s what this article is all about, vibrating with something, and it seems i’m learning to vibrate positive as many good things are happening to me lately, even though I’m still very scared.

And now, some time after I wrote the post and added some stuff in the rest of the site I realize there is a fourth book on my desk: Fundamentals of Vipassana Meditation, printed and donated by The Corporate Body of the Buddha Educational Foundation.

I was also asking my Buddhist friend about some more background about the chanting, and one of the things she said that part or all of the chanting is getting in touch with the Universe.

So last night I started reading a bit and this morning i continued as I’m still struggling, still don’t understand. All the ‘going the extra mile stuff’ and ‘work your plan’ and ‘things will come back to you’ and ‘you reap what you say’ don’t seem to work for me. Often I go twenty miles extra and it just doesn’t work and I think mostly I plant positive seeds. And all I got back were bad results, most I got back was negativity, loneliness, people leaving me. And I did my best, so it didn’t add up.

So I guess there is more than Think and Grow Rich with all it’s principles of success.

Any how, I started reading and ended up with “Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting“ and I found some relief in it as i did not feel so good this morning, which made me also start reading by the way. And this book has a totally different approach to achieving success, to live a happy life than most other success books.

So what is different. Well, it’s not that different, but the book starts from the idea that ‘everything is energy’ and that ‘energy and matter’ are the same thing. And that we ourselves ‘vibrate’. And that everything around us, everything that is happening to us vibrates with the same vibration. So if we vibrate in a positive way, positive things come to us, vibrate with us and when we vibrate ‘negative’, negative things come to us, vibrate with us. So the starting point of this book is ‘vibrations’, where vibrations come from feelings, whereas e.g. the starting point from Think and Grow Rich is more like desire.

Not that different in the end though, as I guess desire and positive feelings or positive vibrations are not that different. And reading one line more, Lynn Grabhorn mentions deliberate creation and four steps to bring into your life whatever is your passion and much, much more. The four steps she mentions are:

  1. Identify what you DON’T want.
  2. From that, identify what you DO want.
  3. Get into the feeling place of what you want.
  4. Expect, listen and allow it to happen.

Sounds simpler than the ideas of Think and Grow Rich, although I still have the feeling they’re not that different, as also in the principles of success as described by Napoleon Hill the term Infinite Intelligence plays a major role.

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Completely down

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The last few days, or even weeks, I have been very down and it seemed that all I had worked for was falling apart again. And I was the cause myself, that was the most frustrating. So last night that inspired me to create this post and related pages, so pages related to ‘what if you are down’. Because it seems that just happens, and I guess not only to me but to everybody on their way in life, on their way to success, so also to you and I guess it’s quite normal.

So indeed, as Napoleon Hill states, “Every adversity, every failure and every heartache carries with it the Seed of an equivalent or a greater Benefit”. I can confirm that fully, as in my lowest moments I often come up with the best ideas, like now. If I wouldn’t have been down, I wouldn’t have been inspired by writing a section of the site What if you are down.

Not sure how to continue this post as I want to create a more helpful part of the site to help you, inspire you and not just talk about myself.

So I guess that’s what I’m going to do now. Or maybe one more thing: I think the most important reason for me to be down is if I lost the desire, lost the belief, lost the connection with what I really want or maybe even if I lost the connection with myself.

Anger and inspiration

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Someone was just very angry with me. And as I mostly use the things that happen to me or around me for my daily post it is kind of logical to try to connect anger to inspiration. I feel still upset though, as the anger of the other party was very big, very bad. But I decided to stand my ground. As even though I had done something I could imagine the other party was upset about, angry about, I felt treated unfair.

And yes, even though I’m still upset I guess I did the right thing, standing my ground, thinking of a sentence in Think and Grow Rich: ‘why not put up a stiff fight…’, even though I did not really fight back as the other person was too upset and might have hurt me, as he actually started throwing things at me, damaging things.

Still, standing my ground also gives me a good feeling somewhere below feeling very upset. I feel some kind of power I did not give in to some demands that I thought were wrong. But the type of anger was that bad that I really had to think what to do, how to respond, as bad things might have happened.

So yes, anger can inspire I guess, but only after being upset and when you didn’t let you get dragged into the fight.

And finally I want to share a document here about ending fights: 12 steps to end the fights. Has nothing really to do with this site, but I think there are some very useful suggestions in there on how to deal with anger.