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Complaints, complainer

Today I got one of the first serious comments on my blog, at least I thought:

The following time I read a blog, I hope that it doesn’t disappoint me as a lot as this one. I imply, I know it was my option to read, however I actually thought you’d have something fascinating to say. All I hear is a bunch of whining about something that you could repair if you weren’t too busy in search of attention.

It was a comment on the post Ruled by Emotions and the comment sounds quite serious, like if the person really read the post and gave some serious comment, which may also be true. How disappointed I was when I saw the web address (http://century21powers.com/isabel.asp) and the e-mail address (kjpfmi@gmail.com).

So this person sees me as a complainer, as whining, which I guess I do a lot as I get more of this kind of feedback. Like last week when I think I wrote that someone pointed out to me that my posts are very negative, that is a lot of negativity in me. And today I wrote a post in my personal blog, about someone telling me that I seem to be lost in life, that I need to ‘find myself’. Well, I also heard that a lot.

So yes, I guess there is truth in it, that I’m a complainer, that I’m whining a lot, that there is a lot of negativity in me. And that other people see and feel that. And that they don’t like that. But you know, maybe I have reason to complain. Maybe things didn’t work out as I wanted them to. Maybe it’s not that easy to be me, same as I guess it may not easy for you to be you.

So why fake it? Why pretend I’m happy if I’m not? Why not just be honest?

And you know? Maybe I’m not doing that bad in life, maybe I did do a lot of things and did work a lot and was expecting some more appreciation for that. And you know, I don’t consider myself negative in my actions if you would start counting. And i don’t consider myself as not wanting the good, not wanting the positive, not only for me, but for everybody.

Maybe a good example is this website and blog. I built the whole thing practically myself, and you may mainly see the negative posts. But there is a lot more in this site and I really intend to make this the best site on the internet about inspiration for success, especially for people like me, who don’t have the success they are looking for yet, the success they deserve and need so much. So maybe even for you, otherwise you probably wouldn’t read this post. So you may start reading about the principles of success, or check the exercises part. And yes, maybe I should put a bit more, or even a lot more, in that part. Well, something to think about while I’m writing this. Maybe that’s also the background of the comment at the beginning of this posts.

So maybe next time when you meet a complainer, someone like me, you may want to look a little better, a little deeper, because there may be more than you see at first site. Isn’t the same true for you?

Ruled by emotions

Well, again, this morning i found out that one of my biggest weaknesses seems to be that when I feel down I kind of completely stop, literally completely stop. And that doesn’t feel like leadership, like being a leader. It doesn’t feel like being on the road to success, to the success I’m looking for.

While thinking I realized though that I really felt hurt from something that happened last night. So somehow I thought that maybe I should put attention to that, even though I considered that was an excuse for doing nothing, for being lazy. But I’m not lazy, I just felt hurt and didn’t understand why my partner was so angry with me last night. I had put quite some effort in a project of ours and he just got angry, told me I had done the wrong thing.

And this made me think further, because it seems most people don’t seem to appreciate what I’m doing, not even friends as they don’t really visit me, not customers, as they often have complaints, not previous bosses and employers as in the end often they asked me to resign and I was even fired in a bad way once. So I was thinking what’s the weakness behind and what to do: I work hard, do many things, but somehow it’s not being appreciated by others. So it must have something to do with me, must be some weakness. And it brings nobody anywhere, not me and also not my customers, friends, partner and maybe others.

So again, doing nothing, just thinking, waiting for some inspiration what to do didn’t really feel like an excuse, even though I feel guilty about those periods that I often have.

So mostly I start reading again in Think and Grow Rich or other books and papers I have around me to inspire me and the one that describes my definite purpose. Mostly I just open the book, relying on Infinite Intelligence to give me the right input, the right advice. So today I first ended up in the part about leadership, which I guess was the right part, because there is something there that you should be able to control yourself to be a good leader. Question arises if you would need a leader to achieve success. And do I or you want to be a leader? And is leadership a requirement for success?

Then, with my feeling of doing the wrong things as people don’t seem to be happy with what I’m doing I ended up with the story of the Chinese in the US who said the most noticeable characteristic of Americans is that their eyes are slant. And indeed, this also goes back to what I was struggling with: what seems so natural and good to do for me doesn’t seem to be so for other people. So the sentence “We refuse to believe that which we do not understand. We foolishly believe that our own imitations are the proper measure of limitations” is sticking in my mind right now as that seems to be exactly what I’m struggling with.

And, while reading a bit more also, the whole thing brought me back to:

  • I don’t feel desire at the moment, so how can I get anywhere as indeed, I believe desire is the driver of everything.
  • I don’t have a proper planning in place to deal with the things I’m writing in this post, so I’ll work on my sample plan.
  • I lost a lot of time taking no action, although wrong actions don’t make much sense also. Still, there are a lot of things on my list i could do anyhow, no matter how I feel, so I guess with those things it is indeed procrastination and laziness.

So what’s the inspiration I want to give you related to the above. I guess to check your weaknesses and make some planning on how to deal with them.

Inspiration for you

Yes, today I finally found some time to work a bit more on the pages part of this website. Due to other priorities i had set for myself i did not work on that for a week or so, even though to me the pages part of this site in the end would probably be the most important part, giving all kind of information about achieving success and inspiration for success.

And maybe just to show off, this website is probably already much bigger than it appears as it has many pages related to inspiration and the principles of success that are not in menu’s or something.

So while working on the page What is Success I realized a bit more what the basic goal of this website should be, like inspiring you for your success.

So what is success for you?

Spring always follows winter

I was in a Buddhist meeting this afternoon and I found it an inspiring meeting. And even though I don’t consider myself a Buddhist (yet?) the message of Buddhism is very similar to what I am trying to achieve with this site: be successful in life. As I understand now Buddhists use chanting Nam-myoho-renge-kyo to achieve Buddhahood, meaning something like being at peace or being at peace with yourself or just ‘be’. And something like achieve what you are supposed to achieve or to be. Or at least that’s my interpretation now.

So what was inspiring? Well, basically the story of a woman who told about her winter in life, where everything seemed to go wrong, where they went bankrupt, lost everything. But her chanting helped her through and she went from winter to spring and seems very confident and positive about the future now. So to me this chanting is related to the faith and belief my favorite books talk about. And of course the reading out loud that is often suggested from my books of course relates to the Buddhist chanting aloud, including the repeating thing. And to me the chanting of this strange phrase also relates to the Infinite Intelligence Napoleon Hill relates to.

Also inspiring was being in a group, in a group of people believing in something, believing in a similar or the same thing. This relates to me to the Master Mind principle and I felt the power of the group.

And inspiring was indeed the idea of spring always follows winter, also in life. At least I guess that is true, although I’m still a bit scared it may not always be true or something like winter can still get colder.

But no matter what, I am starting to believe that everything is about belief and that if you have the belief you can achieve virtually anything.

So just believe.

 

Success with my blog

Well, this blog in the end is not supposed to be about me, but about to inspire you to success, but of course for now I would need some followers as there are none or not many visiting this site yet. And of course the site is not visited or not a lot as it is new and does not have a lot of content yet. And I’m not even sure if it’s interesting content already.

So after a discussion with a friend of mine yesterday evening he suggested that one of the ways to e.g. get comments on my blog so I would know if it has useful posts or other content is to involve other bloggers, e.g. by commenting on their posts. Good idea I thought, so I started searching for something like ‘inspiration for success blog’ and ended up here.

And got some more advice straight away. So just ask and you will be given! I asked for advice and got more advice than I could imagine in a very, very short time!