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Something goals and definite purpose

Well, that’s one of the assignments I gave myself today, something about goals and definite purpose. And I’m not fully sure why, although of course I do. As somehow my direction is not clear at the moment. Or maybe it’s more that there are some things I don’t know how to do, how to get. Or maybe better use the word receive instead of get.

And I guess one of my main issues is that I still believe that you get things, whether money or something else, that you have to work for it, do things for it, in a kind of negative way, in a way that you wouldn’t like to do it. So why would that be? And yes, it’s something most people believe, it’s something most people, or maybe even all people, in the world of today grew up with. And it’s one of the things that is contrary to the teachings of Abraham Hicks.

Ah, and there is another reason I wanted to do ‘something goals and definite purpose‘ as I notice more and more that many or most people don’t know what they want. And that I have the feeling most people don’t care about the things I want, the things I’m concerned about. Like I am very concerned about poverty and many things ‘wrong’ in The Philippines. And somehow Filipino’s themselves don’t seem to care, don’t seem to want to do something about it. And I can’t figure out why as at the same time I have the feeling people here do want ‘more’ and ‘right’ and ‘better’.

So is it just communication, my social skills? Maybe, as many people have told me my communication skills are not so good, all my life. But I’m starting to doubt that.

Or don’t people just want to do the effort to bring change, make things better? Or they don’t know how to support me, don’t know what I need? Or they just don’t know what I want, don’t understand me?

So while writing this maybe my short therm goal should be to figure out why people are not concerned about the things I am concerned about, want to change, want to change.

So if you can tell me more about that, please let me know. As I believe life can be better, especially in The Philippines, especially in a material way, material in the sense of improving quality of life in general.

Busy again

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Wow, it’s good to be busy again. At least now I don’t have to worry about what to do next, how to find customers or projects and mainly how to sustain myself and the people close to me and the household and such.

But also a bit tiring as I’m not really used to work for many hours a day anymore. And yes, I know it’s tiring to do the work I do, even for a few hours and then you need a break.

Still no clue though how to continue towards my biggest business dream, an internet company with a staff of around 200 people in Cagayan de Oro City. As I know now it is probably very hard to find people with the mindset and skills that I need to make that company work.

But that’s also why I’m mentioning it here. Because maybe you are the ambitious or not so ambitious person who wants to develop himself, help build a company like I have in mind, help build Cagayan de Oro City and The Philippines into a decent city and country where people can just find decent jobs locally and don’t have to go abroad, don’t need to have their mindset abroad because ‘abroad’ means a decent income in probably a not-so-decent job.

So please help me and yourself and Cagayan de Oro City and The Philippines by helping me serve the customer base I’m developing right now.

And yes, my commitment is there, as that company is one of my life goals and I won’t stop moving in that direction until I get there or until I die. And no, it won’t be easy, because with the current Philippine mindset and education don’t seem to be adequate to compete with other countries.

But yes, I promise I will make it work. Are you joining?

Planning

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I thought I was not good in planning, but it seems that I am starting to learn. And it is weird to see that it appears that planning makes my life easier, more relaxed. As e.g. when I am finished with the plan for the day I am just finished.

And my planning comes with some decision power. As for the last few months I try not to change decisions after I make them. And also that makes life easier, as I don’t have to think so much, I don’t doubt so much anymore. As when I have planned something, decided to do something, I will normally just do it, even though it sometimes feels weird. And yes, I still tend to plan too many things, too many things in one day. So I still get tired from overload. And then indeed I sometimes just stop, don’t do anything anymore, which still kind of makes me feel guilty.

But somehow the ideas of Napoleon Hill as written down in Think and Grow Rich are starting to make sense to me, are starting to help me. And recently even make me feel much stronger.

And still, one of the most powerful things I experience is the coming alive of my desire document. And no, I didn’t make all the dates there. But yes, it helps me keep on track and it is very weird to see it come alive. Very weird.

So yes, recently I also started reading it aloud again. And sometimes I don’t feel it, don’t feel anything. But mostly I see and feel the things written there come alive. And yes, it is kind of a self fulfilling prophecy, as one of the weird things that is happening around that is that it gives positive meaning to events that I would normally consider negative.

So yes, again, I can certainly recommend to make a written statement on your definite purpose or your goals and dreams in life. As one other major thing I also got from the ideas as written down by Napoleon Hill: if you just have one goal or definite purpose and stick to it, only two things can happen: you reach your goal or you die while being on the way to it. And talking about lifetimes the first is much more likely to happen than the second. As most people overestimate what they could achieve in one year and underestimate how much they can achieve in ten year. And being fifty now I can state that ten year is not that long. And that in one lifetime there are mostly multiple periods of ten year.

So yes, better just stick to your goal and reach it. And yes, if you failed, or better say you were defeated, just set your sails once more on the way to your goal(s) and with this type of mindset it is very unlikely not to reach your goal. I promise you.

Challenges on the way

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Mitsubishi Pajero The last few days, weeks I have been thinking a lot about my goals again as I felt I was not really focused on them. And today or yesterday I realized I have been much more focused on the things that stand between me and my goals than on the goals itself. Like e.g. I have been focused on my internet problems, which was kind of logical while I had no or virtually no internet access at home, at my office. But that problem has basically been solved, even though there are still problems with the current connection. And they are serious problems, but right now it is not really that urgent to solve it and it won’t be easy to solve anyhow as it involves the infrastructure of Globe over which I have no direct control.
So I’m starting to realize that I seem to focus much more on the challenges, the problems on the way and try to solve them, than on reaching my goals. And being the emotional person I am these things take a lot of energy and often kind of paralyze me, as when I feel very stressed, like yesterday, this morning and even until now, I kind of stop doing things, or at least it takes me a lot of time to get going again. Which brings me in some kind of downward spiral, as being an evening type of person I often keep going at night, meaning I don’t get enough rest and while going to bed my mind is still full of all the problems, the challenges, instead of having a relaxed evening and going to bed calm.

But as all adversity and negative experience have their advantage according to Napoleon Hill, one of my great inspirors, this afternoon I came up with an idea. And the idea is basically not really my own only as it builds upon a lot of ideas of other people. So this idea is based on the idea of ‘creation box’ from Abraham Hicks. And on the idea of Vision Board, something I don’t know who invented it.

Dream vision

So while watching at the images of my goals and dreams that hang outside of our bedroom, together with the sample of how easy it is to reach a goal, I came up to give my challenges, my problems on the way to my goal, a place, make them visible in a way to be able to handle them better. So I came up with the idea of a challenge box, similar to the idea of the creation box. And as I often try to make things visible I realized it should be located between (the representation of) my goals and me. And often ‘me, now’ is on the bed in the bedroom when thinking of my goals, and (the representation of) my goals and dreams are printed papers hanging from the railing of our bedroom balcony. So I just looked for a box, a shoe box or something, put it in between and took some clean papers to write down my challenges and put them in the box. So they have a (visible) place now.

Dream vision

And I realized that I just choose to focus on the problems, on the challenges. I could e.g. just go around them. So I make choices to go for the problems and not let them be and find other ways or something.

Dream vision with challenges

Dreams, dream box and challenges

And looking at the whole thing visualized gave me a lot of perspective, as the challenges are not that big and can be easily even avoided by just walking around them.

And I know there is a lot more to this and it’s not as easy as just printing images of dreams and putting challenges in a (small) box. But visualizing things, and yes, taking action by just searching for a shoe box and writing your challenges down I can certainly recommend. Why not start now? It took me only like fifteen minutes and it gave me a lot of perspective and peace, so I guess it could do the same for you.

And I also saw in the photo’s the view in the background, all those things I already have, all those things that I can enjoy. And they appear much, much bigger than my dreams on the papers and in the dream box. And much bigger than my challenges.

Fear and courage

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The last weeks have been tiring because of my internet problems at home, in my office. And especially the message from my main internet Service Provider, Smart, hit me hard. I understood that I would either need to bear with my bad connection or look for another service provider.

And my fear is that i will never have internet access again from my home, from my office again. But of course that’s not true.

And this whole thing of a company that has served me so well for many years suddenly telling me they don’t want me anymore hit me hard as a person. And yes, I know it’s business and solving the technical problem might be expensive as it seems that the current technical solution is at it’s limit due to changes in the environment or something. But especially with internet access you don’t have so many options, especially in some locations like mine, where as far as i know Smart is basically the only, or at least the best option.

And it also hit me hard as for me it has been always very hard to find customers. So I am sometimes stunned when companies are not accepting me, not accepting all customers or just refuse to serve them, even if they could.

And i am still wondering if it’s just me and my situation and my choice to live here are causing these kind of problems. But even then, even if I were the only one, then why not just find a solution and get me back online again? I know I am ‘just’ one of the many, many customers from Smart and they could easily do without me. But the risk is they may lose me forever as a customer and e.g. writing here could do some damage to their brand, their name.

And the more I look around me I see businesses not serving their customers as well as they could, or as i think they should. And it keeps me thinking why those businesses are successful and why mine is not, especially lately, where I decided to put more focus on customer satisfaction, on really doing my best to serve my customers the best I can. But somehow the Universe doesn’t seem to make that easier, as lately, without decent internet access at home, I often had to go to the city, to an internet cafe to do or finish my work.

And it makes me think of what Napoleon Hill states “I fully realize that no wealth or position can long endure, unless built upon trugh and justice; therefore, I will engage in no transaction which does not benefit all whom it affects.”. So this must apply to Smart and the people within and the leaders of Smart. But as of the moment I’m not sure, as them leaving me behind and not solving the problems with my connection certainly doesn’t benefit me. And not solving it also doesn’t benefit them.

And next to this I have been thinking what this adversity, this heartache carries for me in equivalent or greater benefit. As a famous quote of Napoleon Hill is also “Every adversity, every failure and every heartache carries with it the Seed of an equivalent or a greater Benefit”. But right now I just don’t see it, even though I am starting to see that this whole exercise that started with receiving and reading Think and Grow Rich makes me look more for the opportunities and somehow makes my mindset more positive.

And I am sorry as this post is a bit chaotic. But I’m just human, just like you and me, and just very tired of this additional setback, where just as I had found some new customers, just started some new projects, I lost my normal internet access that caused me an awful lot of hassle and cost me an awful lot of time.

And I am still amazed with all those people who didn’t read Think and Grow Rich, who didn’t think about their definite purpose or goals in life, who didn’t make it specific, where I did. And they seem so much happier or more easy going than me. It seems that I’m just struggling, still struggling, like I have done most of my life. The road towards success seems so endless, so tiring, so exhausting.

But yes, I also often forget how far I have gotten. When writing my desire document the most important thing I wrote in there was impossible. And now it’s just there and only one and a half year passed. And indeed, I didn’t even really do much effort for it.

And yes, the idea of having your life, the rest of your life, to reach your goal, your definite purpose, is very comforting. The idea of just not giving up until you get there, no matter what. That’s a very powerful idea and often keeps me going.

What about you? Did you write down your goal or goals and set specific dates for them? And do you read your desire document aloud every day? Did you even think about your definite purpose in life? If not, you may want to do that, as when reading my desire document now, it has come alive and gives me structure and shows me how i can look at things like those internet troubles i have right now.

So yes, you may consider that, even though I’m not the most successful person ever yet. But somehow, no matter my complaints, I am stronger now and am still gaining strength, by just doing those things, taking time to think about those things.

So better start now.

And yes, I found the courage to get moving again today and fortunately internet seems to work good enough in the afternoon right now.