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Leondardo DiCaprio Today’s quote made me think about what success means to me:

“Define success on your own terms, achieve it by your own rules, and build a life you’re proud to live.” – Anne Sweeney

And it brought me back to my history, where success just meant like finding a job (and I was supposed to have a good job as I’m quite intelligent) and just work and live a happy life, live the life I knew as a child and that was pretty OK with me. How different did my life go, but maybe that’s just how life goes.

So this quote of today made me think of how I would define success today. And I think I wouldn’t define it much different than when I was a child, when I grew up. And today I read this page about what ‘successful people’ do: 10 high performance habits that lead to success. And I know somehow those things are true, but it’s not the whole truth. Because I did win the morning, somewhere in my life. And I did do the hard things. And yes, maybe I didn’t embrace feedback. But I think I did learn from failures, although looking back maybe not enough. And yes, maybe I’m not good at choosing the right attitude. But I did do a lot, an awful lot of one more. And it didn’t work out mostly, so I’m very careful doing one more at the moment, or doing anything. And I think I have a purpose, although the desire might not be big enough or clear enough. And maybe I’m not recommitting every day. And yes, patience has not been my strongest side. But in the end I think I do not fear anyone.

So looking back at this I think I have not done that bad in those success habits. So I should have success. But I don’t. And looking at all kinds of other lists with similar ‘success things’ I think I’ve not done bad on those also. So what’s going on? What’s the secret? Why don’t I have what I think I should have, I’m supposed to have? Something is still missing, and there wouldn’t be so many websites and self help books and training and courses and what else if I were the only one. And it seems also that mostly ‘those who are already there’ benefit mostly of it. And good samples for me in the ‘self help industry’ are people like Esther and Jerry Hicks, Anthony Robbins, Bob Proctor, maybe Joel Osteen and there are many more. It seems they’re doing pretty OK and I guess they do. Or are they mainly keeping up an image? Or is it their personality? Do they have certain treats I don’t have, you don’t have? And the hard part is that it would be hard to ‘counter’ them. As they have made it and I have not. And somehow they have the power and I have not.

And some other successes I also don’t fully understand, where people seem to have achieved success at very young age, like Leonardo DiCaprio and Justin Bieber, although (young) people who succeed (early) in life seem to have one thing in common: having the right support from someone else, which I feel never had. But again, this is basically the reason why Inspiration for Success exists as I want to find a way to give everything that external support he or she needs.

And that’s what has been bothering me for a long time, that it’s easy to say what you should do or shouldn’t do or how to do it when you’re already ‘there’. But if you’re not there, you keep wondering what you’re doing wrong, at least I do. So yes, somehow I still intend to be ‘there’, probably through this website, this project. But as of now I’m not and I’m suffering quite a lot of ‘not being there’. And yes, somehow this is still the answer, that if I keep doing this, keep writing, keep pushing Inspiration for Success, no matter what, I’ll be ‘there’ one day.

But I’m not there yet, and that’s not always easy.

Stand still

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Well, it seems that I, and everything around me, has come to a complete stand still.

So what’s next?

What would the leaders do whom I admire?

What can I learn from it?

I like to go and work hard, but somehow it seems others can’t follow me for whatever reason. Time to figure that out now?

Failure september 2013?

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Well, I thought I could never fail, would never fail as I believed a lot in the book, in Think and Grow Rich. And recently I see I failed in quite some things related to my original goals, the goals I started the site with.

But while writing this, and even while I felt very bad the last days, maybe even the last weeks, somehow I made a lot of progress, even big progress towards my goals, yes, even the goals I wrote in this site from the very start.

And I can’t really explain what happened and what is happening to me right now. Somehow the last few months my mindset is changing. And somehow it all goes back to the Principles of Success as described by Napoleon Hill.

For example, I feel more determined now, more determined than ever before to get out of this situation I’m in right now, a situation I don’t like. Somehow I’m starting to really want that one million dollar and that Pajero and that holiday to Bali. And the weird this is I’m starting to care less to ‘have’, ‘own’ a million dollar or whatever. I feel more giving now, I’m much, much more OK with giving away everything, just give to people.

And yes, I’m much more focused on service now, especially to my clients. And that was a hard one as I always thought I did my best and delivered the right stuff. But now I think I didn’t and that’s also why my business went down. And it seems it’s picking up now as I get some more serious requests.

And the team, or actually the Master Mind, has given me a lot. Not a lot of hard work, although I may underestimate what they have been doing. But mainly a lot of insight about myself and other people. And also some reality check as I tend to be too much of a dreamer. And don’t get me wrong, my dreams are OK and I’ll stick to them, maybe more than ever, but e.g. the team members also need to see and believe. And i’m trying to see more about the team members, something that’s not easy for me related to the personality I think I am, I have.

And writing down things, that’s very important. Indeed, as Napoleon Hill states, to analyze what’s going on, what has gone wrong, or what has been successful. Like what worked and what didn’t work.

So did I fail? Well, related to the traffic goals I set for this October for the site it’s not very likely that that’s going to happen. And I didn’t push through with the viral idea, make plans for it. But I did create a Master Mind of five people as I intended. I do have clearer goals. I do have some more ideas on planning, we did send our first newsletter, something beyond my imagination. We do have an editor in chief. We have some divided responsibilities. So yes, if I manage to become a real leader, show leadership to my team, I think there is a very good foundation for future success.

One of those days

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Well, the challenge is more and more to write something inspiring, but today was one of those days where nothing seemed to work out as I expected or intended to. Up to just five minutes ago as on my own computer for some kind of weird reason I could not even edit or create a new post or page in this site with the standard WordPress editor, which was very weird as nothing changed in the site and yesterday it just worked.

So this morning started with one of our two main servers not starting, which is kind of annoying as many things will slow down and some things are not available as they only reside on that server. This morning also started with a weird water problem where I finally found out that the tank was empty, which should not be as I can’t image we consume that much water. Ah, and before the electricity went off wich was something I took as a signal to continue with the improvement of our water system that I had planned for today. Before that something needed to be printed, where of course the printer was connected to the system that was down. At that time someone was cleaning so it was a lot of hassle to print as I had to pass the floor being cleaned (and very wet and slippery) many, many times. Also there was one envelope left where I needed two. Ah, and of course the server didn’t have a CD-ROM device attached that I needed for repairing the system. And I can’t remember other things, but I’m quite sure there were some other things I didn’t like either. Ah, and forgot, just when a customer called through Skype, a call that hadn’t pushed through for a few days, the internet connection was down. And when I had switched to our other connection, which of course was more hassle than usual because I felt so down about this computer being down, he was not available anymore.

So my mood was very down and indeed, it somehow was one of those days where it seems nothing can go right.

And still, it’s not the whole truth. It’s a feeling, a mood that indeed somehow also affects your environment. And I don’t know how that works, but something like Law of Attraction indeed seems to exist.

So yes, most of the day I felt very bad and had a bad mood and even felt physically exhausted. I guess you know the feeling. But somehow I did manage the things

So it felt like ‘just one of those day’s. But was it really? In a way yes, as normally there are not so many things breaking down at the same time. But looking at how the world works, 99% of everything around me still worked. So somehow I, or we, seem to focus on things that don’t work, not on things that work. I wrote about that also yesterday or a few days ago. And I’m not sure if you realize, but it’s kind of a miracle that most things work. Rationally it would be more likely that things wouldn’t work. And also I have put so many things in place as a back-up, like my duplicate file server system, that I somehow still could work. And I had had a warning from that server there was a disk problem a few weeks or months ago. So I had been warned aleady something like this might happen.

And somehow I still did the things I had planned for today. And many things more. So rationally it wasn’t really a bad day, even though I don’t plan so many things on a day like before, actually embarrassingly little, but that’s another story.

So somehow, doing these little things for quite a while now and keeping my daily promises to myself, no matter how small or could even be ‘nothing’, I have developed a habit of ‘doing the things I planned for a day’, which is even why I’m writing this post now even though it’s very late at night.

So inspiring, this post? Maybe, because also some things pointed me in the right direction, like the electricity going off made me move on the water, one of the things I had planned. And the server breakdown and the phone call somehow made me do some little work on something I had planned for a site. And I have developed to ‘push through’ in a more relaxed way than before, indeed from ‘habit’ and not from ‘have to’.

So yes, I’m not there as I feel it, far from it, but somehow something changed. Thank you Napoleon HIll and Lynn Grabhorn and Abraham Hicks and many, many other people.

Balance the principles of success

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As you may know one of my biggest challenges for this project, and maybe in life, is and was work in a team, work as a team, or work in or with a Master Mind as Napoleon Hill calls it. But looking back at the last year, at how this project came into being and where it is now I can only say that I made big progress and yes, can consider myself quite or even very successful. And yes, at the back of my mind is continuously something like ‘money’, or actually lack of money, but I am starting to see and believe that life is not about money as it often seems to be for many of us. And that indeed success is not only measured in terms of money as i always thought it was. And yes, I still want money, lots of it, as I always wanted. But not so much anymore for the sake of money, but more for the sake of doing the things I want to do and even giving the things i want to give, like visiting friends or family. And for the freedom I think it can give me, give you. But actually I don’t want to talk about that now.

What I was and am planning to talk about was the team, my team challenge, and while writing this I realize the thing i wanted to talk about is somehow also related to money. So let’s see where this goes.

My main issue here is that I do believe, according to the Principles of Success, that i should stick with decisions that have been made, especially if they are supported by the whole team. So i let go of my original sample goal, or at least the date. So I kind of settled with the intermediate goal of the team to acquire one hundred dollars on or before October 22, 2013 (and not one million dollar on a similar time scale as I originally stated) for ‘teams sake’. And don’t get me wrong, this is not a negative as I am starting to see how much more indeed a team, a Master Mind is.

You may want to know that the team, even though in my opinion did not contribute so much in actual work for e.g. the site, already contributed so much in additional ideas and thoughts and, indeed, reality checks, that I indeed see the value and how much more you can achieve with team effort than you can alone, even though often I feel ‘held back’. But I know that in the end my patience will pay off as I can see and feel now that when the team is synchronized and focused on the goal or the goals the speed and impact will be enormous, indeed much, much, much more that I can and could have ever imagined.

However, somehow now I need to convince the team that mindset is indeed everything and that if you don’t believe that you can make one hundred dollars on or before October 22, 2013, it quite sure will not happen. And that if you do believe it that it is quite likely to happen, probably even much sooner. I mean, what is one hundred dollars to be acquired by four people in a period of six weeks? I earned more than that amount more than ten years ago in one hour being a consultant at KPMG. So why couldn’t I, supported by three people, not even earn that now in six weeks time, let alone why can’t four people earn that in six weeks time, if we would want to get it by ‘earning’? And I’m quite sure I can get it in five minutes from my mam. And I’m quite sure my team members also know people who would easily be willing to give one hundred dollars for a good cause if they would just be asked. You may call this type of ‘asking’ cheating related to the goal, but my point is here that somehow we as the team have limited ourselves in ‘earning’, acquiring money. And I have known that for a long time, but some of my team members apparently not.

Anyhow, going back to team I am experiencing two issues here:

One of the team members doesn’t believe anymore that we can make one hundred US dollars on or before October 22, 2013.
One of the team members thinks one million dollars on or before October 19, 2013 is ‘not realistic’.

And to me the first issue is the most important as there are several things conflicting with the principles of success here and the most important is to come back on a decision that has already been made. And over the last year I indeed learned about the powers of making decisions and sticking to them. And no, I didn’t stick to all my decisions but I did stick to my major decisions and it paid off and I am also starting to see or just seeing why.

But the team doesn’t have my experience, so somehow I need to pass that on or just be patient or let them experience themselves or…

But that was my biggest challenge.