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Achieving goals

Tonight I told my sister in law about the six steps Napoleon Hill describes to achieve success, to achieve goals, or maybe just to achieve financial goals, although I believe the six steps basically apply to any goal, although the more I think about it, Think and Grow Rich is very much focused on reaching financial, capitalistic goals.

And one of my favorite ‘exercises’ to show to people how easy it is to achieve a goal is to put an object a few meters away from me, define that as the goal and then just walk slowly but determined towards it and just pick up the object, which indeed also makes me feel how easy it is to achieve a goal, any goal. But part of the exercise is also to start roaming around, looking at all kinds of other things and walking towards them, showing how NOT to achieve goals. Because if you let yourself distract from the goal by other things, which I guess we all do, it is much more difficult, even virtually impossible, to reach the goal. But if you just walk towards the goal it is very easy to achieve. You don’t even have to walk fast or do a lot of effort. And even if there are smaller or larger hurdles in between you and your goal the goal is still very easy to reach, by just walking around the obstacles or climbing over them or something like that. As long as you just walk slowly but determined to your goal it is very easy to reach, at least in this exercise, but I think the exercise represent real life goals very well.

And the above sounds very much like what Abraham HIcks says about NOT doing effort, at least NOT when you don’t feel like it, meaning something like NOT doing action if you’re not sure it’s the right action, if it’s the right direction. And indeed, behind that I feel something like how easy it is to achieve a goal, how easy it is to move, when you know what you want and just get it, similar to the story of buying something in the supermarket: you just go and get it and don’t worry about not getting it, as you know it is there and if you brought the money you just get it. And even the last may not be required, I am thinking while writing it. You just ‘go and get it’, indeed similar to breathing or your heart beating all your life.

And tonight, this conversation, this act made me realize how for I have left my goals behind, how little effort I recently do do achieve my goals, how they somehow seem to have disappeared in my daily worries. And how little effort and attention I have recently given to my desire document, the document I made a bit more than a year ago describing my definite purpose. And the same feeling I had yesterday related to the project, this project, the project Inspiration for Success. Similar to the team members I have just let it go, have just left it behind, basically doing what the team members have been doing and for which I kind of detested them.

So yes, this is a good time to review my goals and get back on track. No, not by ‘push and shove’, but just with some more determination and yes, finding inspiration again.

My biggest weakness

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Yesterday something happened that completely put me out of balance. And the event itself was not even that major from an objective point of view, but it triggered my injustice feeling, my feeling that I feel so helpless when I bump into the policies and procedures of an organization when I just need to talk to someone to find a solution for problem I have and need help with (from this organization).

And this type of thing happens to me quite often (recently?) and the result is that I feel completely devastated, feel ‘bad’ and can’t find any way around this feeling except, well waiting until it has passed away, often reading stuff from self help books or the internet. Or writing, doing some exercises like segment intending, which I just did.

The problem I encounter is that I kind of lose half or a whole (working) day, which, also to my feeling, just makes things worse, which will make me feel guilty or something and in the end will make me even worse and will paralyze me even more.

So my biggest weakness seems to be, at least to the things stated in Think and Grow Rich, which I started re-reading today while in this situation, this feeling, that I can’t control my, well, emotions? So some kind of complete lack of self control. And some kind of self destructive behavior, as this kind of behavior, from an objective point of view, just makes things worse.

But while writing this I’m starting to doubt if it’s all that destructive. And while thinking now I may want to analyze what is really going on in this type of situation, what was really going on yesterday and today.

And wow, this is really hard, writing on now. As over all I’m still in a very bad situation, at least financially. And the issue yesterday affected that, at least in my thinking, to an even worse situation. And I knew ‘something’ was coming, but after the trigger last weekend to make a phone call, I was actually happy and prepared myself for a phone call that would lead to a solution that would be best for both parties. At least in my opinion.

Anyhow, the conversation didn’t go as planned and I found myself and the other person caught in some kind of deadlock, which made me say something that triggered a very bad action (for me) from the other side. So the whole thing went nowhere, leaving me in even more trouble than I was before, while I had expected an open conversation about how to solve this problem. But I was only offered one solution (and also realize now that I also only had one solution in mind). And that solution was impossible for me to comply with, at least that’s what I thought at that moment.

But yes, here I am at the core of what I think should be changed in large organizations with people just implementing policies and procedures, where the customer has nowhere to go. And those things feel to me like talking to a book, talking to a written policy, talking to ‘the law’. And that’s where I get turned off completely. As I thought I was the customer, where apparently I’m not, or at least don’t feel like it.

So what’s going on there? I had some expectation, some hope and the thing I expected, the thing I hoped for didn’t happen. And as it has, at least in my thinking, a big impact on my life, I go into stress mode and that stress mode paralyzes me for about a day or so.

And I have to stop now, as this is not working. I have to stop.

Will continue later.

So it happened again. I suddenly panicked and just needed to stop. And I know about ‘will power’ and ‘self control’ and such, but somehow my feeling is so strong that I just need to stop. Or at least I did.

And here it gets confusing again, because am I unique in this? Or a minority? Or a majority? And if so, what then? And whatever the answer to that question, should I change it, can I change it? Is it as bad as it feels and is it indeed something I ‘should’ change?

And if you are the same or recognize this, how can I contribute to dealing better with that feeling or how can I contribute to you being more ‘efficient’?

Or, while realizing what I just wrote, what’s the whole point with all of this?

Well, the whole point is of course that I want to feel happy and that maybe I want to be successful as I somehow still connect ‘being successful’ with ‘being happy’. And this feeling belongs in the category ‘unhappy’, or in the (my?) category ‘unwanted’.

But again, feelings are just feelings. Nothing bad with that? They’re just feelings and every human being has them. And I guess every human being likes ‘positive’ or ‘happy’ feelings and dislikes ‘negative’ or ‘bad’ feelings (unhappy feelings?).

So let’s see, as of now I feel ‘kind of bad’, kind of wanting to stop. And I don’t like the feeling. So maybe the goal is just to go from an ‘unlikable feeling’ to a ‘likable feeling’. And here comes in mind again the teachings of Abraham Hicks, as he states something like, no matter how you are feeling, no matter the situation, first go to a positive feeling and then go from there. As nothing positive comes out of a negative feeling, about a negative state of being.

And somehow deep inside I agree with that.

But then what’s the purpose of negative feelings and how to deal with them? And why would I want to ‘do’ something? Why would you, why would anybody want to ‘do’ something as that’s also what’s behind the whole thing? Don’t we just want to feel good? That’s all? And is any of our ‘doing’ not just to create positive or more positive feelings?

And let’s go further, because five minutes ago or so I was walking around a bit and that made me feel better. But somehow I also wanted to go back here, to the laptop to finish this post. And in the background I still just want to ‘fix my life’. And yes, that ‘fix my life’ is linked to ‘do things to fix my life’.

And is that indeed why we are here on earth, to ‘do’ things?

Well, I’m going around in circles it seems and I’m not sure how this post could be of any use to anybody else, except me now writing it which makes me feel a bit better and helps me organize my thoughts.

But yes, somehow I want, I believe, that this post should also benefit others, benefit you.

So what helped me now was:

Writing things down, not only in this post.
Doing some ‘segment intending’.
Making some kind of plan, a very minimal plan, for the rest of the day.
Working on finishing that plan, where one of the items was making this post.

Stand still

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Well, it seems that I, and everything around me, has come to a complete stand still.

So what’s next?

What would the leaders do whom I admire?

What can I learn from it?

I like to go and work hard, but somehow it seems others can’t follow me for whatever reason. Time to figure that out now?

Procrastination

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i read a bit ahead in my thirty day Law of Attraction program and it was about procrastination. And Abraham Hicks says on day 26 that procrastination is not necessarily bad (see what i just wrote about procrastination on the page procrastination if it’s still there). And I agree with that as that’s what I often felt even though everything around me, around us, seems to say that we should take action and don’t wait, don’t hesitate.

And I don’t say you shouldn’t do anything, shouldn’t take action, as I still believe action is the thing that in the end makes things move. But looking back at the last year I am also starting to realize that patience may be as important as ‘action’.

You see, patience brought my biggest dream closer, closer than I could have ever imagined one year ago. One year ago when my biggest dream was impossible, literally impossible. Where everyone said I was crazy to follow my heart, follow my dream. And I’m not there yet, but I’m very, very close. And yes, i’m willing to wait, willing to be patient, willing to ‘allow’ my dream finally become true. So the weird thing with the thing I really wanted, I really want, is that it came closer by just being patient, without really taking action. And yes, persistent I was and still am, but patience seems to have been the biggest issue, not action.

And also today, the last few weeks, I saw that patience paid off much more than action and pushing pushing. Patience also seems to have been the biggest issue towards other people, towards my team, that slowly but surely seems to start moving in the direction that I have and had in mind for Inspiration for Success.

So yes, procrastination is not necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes the Universe just needs time to put things in place, to align things. So be persistent, but also be patient.

Finding “The One”

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Today the subject in the thirty day Law of Attraction program was “Love” and it started with an advice on how to look for a partner and find one. And it reminded me of a training I once did where I found out that the main thing many, many people were looking for was a partner, a lover, a life partner. Actually one of those people was me. And the weird thing was that it was stated that for many people actively looking for a partner is something ‘not done’, some kind of taboo. And it felt like kind of a relief that the leaders of the course just stated something like, why not look for a partner actively. Why not really go for it, search for it, plan actions for it. Just go until you found one, especially if it’s the most important thing in your life. And that idea felt really weird for me as for most of the other participants.

And today I found Abraham Hicks said something kind of similar. And that similar was related to something that was also mentioned in the course: don’t look for a partner ‘directly’, like looking around and see if someone is attractive. Just go out and meet people, start talking to people, whether attractive or not, whether a potential partner or not. Just be open to it, just be ready for it, but don’t be desparate, don’t ‘desperately search’, as that is what most people would think when talking about ‘actively looking for a partner’.

And yes, have your wishlist, just write it down, the things you are looking for in a partner. Nothing wrong with that? If it’s the most important thing in your life, and I guess for most people it is, then better be serious about it, better define exactly what you want.

So also my training was about plans and deadlines and such, similar to the ideas in Think and Grow Rich. So I did. I did make my list, there was a deadline and there were actions and there was something like a Master Mind, not only the group, but also your ‘buddy’. Ah, and the last is something we want to use this site for, connecting people to inspire each other, either giving or receiving or both. We can already do if you just send an e-mail to info@inspiration-for-success.com, but we are planning some tools for that in the site.

So imagine, having a plan to find a partner and described exactly how you want him or her and a deadline. Never heard of that before and it was really weird doing it.

And you know what? Shortly after the course I did meet my life partner. And he did meet my requirements. And no, I didn’t meet the deadline, but looking back I could have, if I had just done one more thing. And no, it was not ‘forced’, it did not feel like forcing myself or my partner in this relationship. We just fell in love naturally and built our relationship naturally. And no, we didn’t meet accidentally, but somehow it was just ‘accidental’ it was him in the end.

So yes, if you want a partner (or a job or a business or whatever), just imagine it, write it down, make a plan and take action. But make sure it’s not ‘forced action’ as that doesn’t work. Just be active and open and it will come. I’m quite sure about that.