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Something goals and definite purpose

Well, that’s one of the assignments I gave myself today, something about goals and definite purpose. And I’m not fully sure why, although of course I do. As somehow my direction is not clear at the moment. Or maybe it’s more that there are some things I don’t know how to do, how to get. Or maybe better use the word receive instead of get.

And I guess one of my main issues is that I still believe that you get things, whether money or something else, that you have to work for it, do things for it, in a kind of negative way, in a way that you wouldn’t like to do it. So why would that be? And yes, it’s something most people believe, it’s something most people, or maybe even all people, in the world of today grew up with. And it’s one of the things that is contrary to the teachings of Abraham Hicks.

Ah, and there is another reason I wanted to do ‘something goals and definite purpose‘ as I notice more and more that many or most people don’t know what they want. And that I have the feeling most people don’t care about the things I want, the things I’m concerned about. Like I am very concerned about poverty and many things ‘wrong’ in The Philippines. And somehow Filipino’s themselves don’t seem to care, don’t seem to want to do something about it. And I can’t figure out why as at the same time I have the feeling people here do want ‘more’ and ‘right’ and ‘better’.

So is it just communication, my social skills? Maybe, as many people have told me my communication skills are not so good, all my life. But I’m starting to doubt that.

Or don’t people just want to do the effort to bring change, make things better? Or they don’t know how to support me, don’t know what I need? Or they just don’t know what I want, don’t understand me?

So while writing this maybe my short therm goal should be to figure out why people are not concerned about the things I am concerned about, want to change, want to change.

So if you can tell me more about that, please let me know. As I believe life can be better, especially in The Philippines, especially in a material way, material in the sense of improving quality of life in general.

Being a writer

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Today the post of Leo Babauta stuck kind of in my mind. As he states something like ‘write every day’. And ‘create a blog’. And in my mind is now something that I’m not really a writer as Leo states that he started writing when he was seven or so. And right now I was reading I should not just write about myself, as I mostly do. I should have a purpose. And that’s what lately has been missing a bit. Where lately I guess means quite some time already.

But yes, let’s not forget that no matter what I have been writing every day. And I am writing now, even though it’s late, my back aches, I’m coughing and I just want to rest. And I don’t know what to write. Or at least I don’t know what to write that would be of use. But again, I guess I’m too hard on myself, as I want to inspire people, before for success as I thought what success was. But now more inspire people to achieve their goals. Or their main goal in life.

And yes, I am writing to improve the world. And that’s also why I have been writing so much about my internet problems and such. As I want people to read it and have some influence. And yes, I’m good in search engine optimization, so consciously or unconsciously I have been and am building some kind of internet structure to do something about what Globe and Smart could improve, should improve. And through them I want to reach other companies to improve, to make the world for humans again, not for organizations.

So well, maybe this post is part of all that. Of me trying to improve the world, trying to reach out, trying to find readers. So I would have some influence. As I’m sure Leo has.

Planning

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I thought I was not good in planning, but it seems that I am starting to learn. And it is weird to see that it appears that planning makes my life easier, more relaxed. As e.g. when I am finished with the plan for the day I am just finished.

And my planning comes with some decision power. As for the last few months I try not to change decisions after I make them. And also that makes life easier, as I don’t have to think so much, I don’t doubt so much anymore. As when I have planned something, decided to do something, I will normally just do it, even though it sometimes feels weird. And yes, I still tend to plan too many things, too many things in one day. So I still get tired from overload. And then indeed I sometimes just stop, don’t do anything anymore, which still kind of makes me feel guilty.

But somehow the ideas of Napoleon Hill as written down in Think and Grow Rich are starting to make sense to me, are starting to help me. And recently even make me feel much stronger.

And still, one of the most powerful things I experience is the coming alive of my desire document. And no, I didn’t make all the dates there. But yes, it helps me keep on track and it is very weird to see it come alive. Very weird.

So yes, recently I also started reading it aloud again. And sometimes I don’t feel it, don’t feel anything. But mostly I see and feel the things written there come alive. And yes, it is kind of a self fulfilling prophecy, as one of the weird things that is happening around that is that it gives positive meaning to events that I would normally consider negative.

So yes, again, I can certainly recommend to make a written statement on your definite purpose or your goals and dreams in life. As one other major thing I also got from the ideas as written down by Napoleon Hill: if you just have one goal or definite purpose and stick to it, only two things can happen: you reach your goal or you die while being on the way to it. And talking about lifetimes the first is much more likely to happen than the second. As most people overestimate what they could achieve in one year and underestimate how much they can achieve in ten year. And being fifty now I can state that ten year is not that long. And that in one lifetime there are mostly multiple periods of ten year.

So yes, better just stick to your goal and reach it. And yes, if you failed, or better say you were defeated, just set your sails once more on the way to your goal(s) and with this type of mindset it is very unlikely not to reach your goal. I promise you.

About change

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My partner always wanted me to change. And I never understood. And maybe he meant something else than what I understand now. And maybe I am not realistic. But I think I did change, and I did change in a positive way. As before with expensive things I often thought (and said): we can’t afford it. But right now I am much more careful and today’s test drive with a Subaru or maybe even buying one is more of a step on the road to my dream car, a black Mitsubishi Pajero, highest diesel type with manual transmission than something ‘I can’t afford’ or something ‘impossible. So even if I don’t have any clue where to get the money, not ‘even’ for a Subaru or any car at all, I did enjoy our visit to the local Subaru dealer and today’s testdrive with a Subaru XV.

Dreaming about cars

And I enjoyed these visits especially as I realized that Subaru still builds cars in a non-conventional way, with a boxer engine and four wheel drive and only available with gasoline engines. And especially while watching the engine bay a few days ago I had the feeling these cars are really built with love, unlike many other cars available in The Philippines who mostly look like efficient work horses. And driving it today made me realize that the car industry had really matured since I was a teenager as this car I was driving today was smooth and simple and still fun. And it was all even for free. And yes, it made me kind of realize again that I am supposed to drive cars, enjoy cars while driving, as I kind of play with them, they do what I want to do.

And yes, you may think I’m crazy, but indeed, looking at things in a positive way, just enjoying what’s there without really thinking about ‘buying’ or ‘owning’ or ‘money’, made me feel very happy. And i’m sure the people around me felt that.

Challenges on the way

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Mitsubishi Pajero The last few days, weeks I have been thinking a lot about my goals again as I felt I was not really focused on them. And today or yesterday I realized I have been much more focused on the things that stand between me and my goals than on the goals itself. Like e.g. I have been focused on my internet problems, which was kind of logical while I had no or virtually no internet access at home, at my office. But that problem has basically been solved, even though there are still problems with the current connection. And they are serious problems, but right now it is not really that urgent to solve it and it won’t be easy to solve anyhow as it involves the infrastructure of Globe over which I have no direct control.
So I’m starting to realize that I seem to focus much more on the challenges, the problems on the way and try to solve them, than on reaching my goals. And being the emotional person I am these things take a lot of energy and often kind of paralyze me, as when I feel very stressed, like yesterday, this morning and even until now, I kind of stop doing things, or at least it takes me a lot of time to get going again. Which brings me in some kind of downward spiral, as being an evening type of person I often keep going at night, meaning I don’t get enough rest and while going to bed my mind is still full of all the problems, the challenges, instead of having a relaxed evening and going to bed calm.

But as all adversity and negative experience have their advantage according to Napoleon Hill, one of my great inspirors, this afternoon I came up with an idea. And the idea is basically not really my own only as it builds upon a lot of ideas of other people. So this idea is based on the idea of ‘creation box’ from Abraham Hicks. And on the idea of Vision Board, something I don’t know who invented it.

Dream vision

So while watching at the images of my goals and dreams that hang outside of our bedroom, together with the sample of how easy it is to reach a goal, I came up to give my challenges, my problems on the way to my goal, a place, make them visible in a way to be able to handle them better. So I came up with the idea of a challenge box, similar to the idea of the creation box. And as I often try to make things visible I realized it should be located between (the representation of) my goals and me. And often ‘me, now’ is on the bed in the bedroom when thinking of my goals, and (the representation of) my goals and dreams are printed papers hanging from the railing of our bedroom balcony. So I just looked for a box, a shoe box or something, put it in between and took some clean papers to write down my challenges and put them in the box. So they have a (visible) place now.

Dream vision

And I realized that I just choose to focus on the problems, on the challenges. I could e.g. just go around them. So I make choices to go for the problems and not let them be and find other ways or something.

Dream vision with challenges

Dreams, dream box and challenges

And looking at the whole thing visualized gave me a lot of perspective, as the challenges are not that big and can be easily even avoided by just walking around them.

And I know there is a lot more to this and it’s not as easy as just printing images of dreams and putting challenges in a (small) box. But visualizing things, and yes, taking action by just searching for a shoe box and writing your challenges down I can certainly recommend. Why not start now? It took me only like fifteen minutes and it gave me a lot of perspective and peace, so I guess it could do the same for you.

And I also saw in the photo’s the view in the background, all those things I already have, all those things that I can enjoy. And they appear much, much bigger than my dreams on the papers and in the dream box. And much bigger than my challenges.