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Another day has passed

Another day has passed and it is late again. And yes, I did some useful things for Inspiration for Success lately, even today, as e.g. I changed the categories into tags in my personal blog. And I think last Saturday I added two sites to the page about top inspirational sites. And just now I added a paragraph about not so inspirational sites on that page, even though after writing it I realized it was kind of a negative paragraph and I try to avoid negative things.

But right now, with this post, with my daily post, I am still confused and a bit lost how to continue with it. As I want it to be inspirational and not some kind of complaining diary, even though while writing this that is kind of the origin of my daily writing of a post in this site. As I wanted to take you with me on my journey to success, so you would know how I got there, through all my struggles and doubts and such. I wanted you to find my site, my writing based on what I am going through, or was going through, as when you read this of course today and my current situation are past history.

So where do I stand with this, with my journey towards success? In my feeling not that good, as I still don’t have money, my business is still not doing well and my relationship could also still be better. But on the other hand, ‘only’ two years have passed since my deepest down in life, since I had the feeling I had nothing left, no relationship, no money, no friends, no place to stay, no nothing. But even though in a more material way I didn’t make any progress, in a spiritual way I did. As somehow my mindset changed and somehow I developed self confidence. And I am wore aware of my negativity, my negative thoughts and feelings, meaning I have developed awareness of those things and that means again that I can change them, control them. As indeed, the start with those things is awareness, as of course if you’re not aware of how negative your thoughts are and how negative (or positive) thoughts influence or even define your life, you can’t make changes.

So yes, I made quite some progress. But still, if I compare myself with Justin Bieber or Leonar DiCaprio or Steven Spielberg(?!) or many other people who became famous or rich at a relative young age, then I am far behind. Ah, and of course I forget people like Bill Gates and Mark Zuckerberg. And I guess these people are exceptions, just being fortunate enough to be somehow priviliged being born at the right time, being at the right place at the right time with the right skills and meeting the right people and such.

And don’t get me wrong, this is not contrary to the Principles of Success I am writing about. As these principles say that you somehow can create your own break, meet your own right people and be in the right place at the right time. Except for the average person that may take a little longer than for those famous people who did something very fast or at very young age. It may take up to twenty or thirty years for the bigger kinds of dreams and successes and this figure is mentioned by Napoleon Hill himself, but also e.g. by Seth Godin.

So well, I guess there is hope, for you as well as for me, if you did not achieve the success you are looking for yet. Even though once I was taught ‘there is no hope’, which I guess is very true. Again, confirmed by Napoleon Hill and many, most or all successful people. As Napoleon Hill states that ‘there is no such thing like something for nothing’ and most famous and successful work or have worked very hard to get where they are. And no, I don’t believe in ‘hard work’. On the contrary, as there were periods in my life where I worked very hard and very long. And it did bring me money, quite a bit, but certainly no lasting success.

So right now I believe more in doing what you love and following your heart. And then the ‘work’ goes by itself.

So listen to your heart first, if you didn’t do that yet.

Breakdown

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So last night I had a complete breakdown, even though I was much more conscious of what was going on with me than ever before, so somehow I made a deliberate choice to stay in this state of, well, not sure what word would be applicable. Maybe something like ‘complete opposition’ or something. So I decided not to send the daily inspirational quote and not to write my posts. Which is a big thing to me, so you can imagine how I felt, how annoyed I was.

And it all started somewhere like last Saturday, when I decided not to pay the helper. As my partner, as usual, had decided to stay away longer than he planned. And as the last months I decided it is easier to deal with my partner, with our budget, by just giving all, or actually most, of the income to my partner, I had no budget left. As he had left me only budget for a few days, which was actually not even enough, especially because I had a large hospital bill last week. For which I withdrew money from the ‘floating cash’ as I call it. Actually meaning I was just plainly borrowing money, as that money is not mine, it is money in transfer to be deposited to our company.

And I am a bit hesitant writing all this, as it is very private and should not be in the open. It should be dealt with by my partner and me discussing it. But until now I, or maybe I should say we, did not find a way to deal with our budget issues, which kind of worries me, as in the end I always gave in and borrowed money again (indirectly, that is important to know, so there is no actual borrowing from ‘someone’). As of course you need to eat. And the dogs need to be fed. And the helper needs to be paid. And yes, last Monday, the medical bills needed to be paid.

Anyhow, all those details about the issues my partner and me have are not really relevant to what I wanted to write. But it may give some background on the behavior I chose yesterday. As as usual my partner made some remarks like ‘if you behave like that I better not come home’ and such. Meaning I felt like ‘here we go again’. And don’t get me wrong, I am doing much better with all of this, mainly based on the ideas of Kim Cooper. But sometimes, like the last few days, especially yesterday when my partner actually came back, I just feel like I’m back at square one. Or at least have no clue what to do to improve the situation. As no matter what I do, my partner seems to stay in this state of “it’s your fault”, including completely withdrawing from everything related to me.

So I just decided to write about it. And while doing so I at least I realize more and more that it’s not my fault, that it has nothing to do with me. As it’s just especially my partner having a terrible mood or not knowing how to deal with things. And apparently this is just his way of dealing with it. Just as I did by just going to bed last night and staying there. As no place in the house felt ‘safe’, meaning a place my partner wouldn’t find any reason to put more blame on me.

And going back to you I think my main reason for writing about this is that I have improved, a lot, to dealing with my partners bad behavior, even though sometimes, like last night, I still break down and don’t exactly know what to do, except hide. But at least this time I made a more deliberate choice, like deciding that I would not do my daily ‘inspirational things’, even though that was a big thing to me. And right now I am trying to convince myself that it’s okay to do that, that it was okay last night to put myself above my obligations to other people, as I feel I have an obligation to send my daily inspirational quote. And maybe most that I am not perfect, something I often try to be, like pushing myself to do the things I planned to do.

So please don’t be perfect, be human.

Jealous

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Somehow I am still jealous at people who are successful at very young age. Recently I checked the story of Chris Colfer, a big star of Glee, or maybe even the biggest. I mean, he is 24 years old and it seems he has achieved many, many more successes than me, being 51 years old now. And yes, I am also convinced now that almost any famous or successful person has some kind of supporter, someone who believes in him or her and brings someone to the next level, just makes it possible for him or her to follow his or her heart or explore his talent to the fullest. And I think in the case of Chris Colfer I think that is or was Ryan Murphy. And Leonardo DiCaprio is also a famous sample for me to be jealous of.

And yes, I know many actors and probably other rich and famous people don’t have a smooth ride and may be as happy or unhappy as any of us. But I still believe it is easier to be unhappy in a Mercedes or Rolls Royce than without a car or other means of private transportation.

And yes, I was also thinking about outlook on life, on work, on career. As I realize my main outlook on work, on jobs is ‘losing my job’, fear of losing my job. And of course that type of outlook does not really help to be successful. And I still don’t fully know what’s the origin of that outlook. Yes, I know that it started when I was fired from a company in I think a very unfair way at a relatively young age. And yes, I understand now more how that happened, what was the background, what were the reasons of my boss and the management. But I also know many people are afraid to lose their job, as in 2014 that mostly means losing your income, losing your status, using your ability to do things.

And right now I am trying to change that. As I believe it can be different, should be different, than just judging people on how they do their work, their job. And making peoples standing depend on career, income, job performance. Because aren’t we much more than ‘performance’? Aren’t we all humans, all different, each with our own color? So why give so much benefits to people who ‘work’, who do their job ‘fitting in the system’, even while they don’t like it or don’t agree with the system?

And yes, I know I am part of the system. I know that I judge people the same way, often on performance, on job performance. And while thinking right now it seems ironic, as I seem to judge people on ‘success’, financial success, success in career, on being famous, being adored.

So let’s be careful judging people, maybe even most being careful judging ourselves. As we are all beautiful people, but I mostly see that in other people, not in myself. What about you?

You are beautiful, just the way you are. Just know that!

Outliers

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Today I was talking about success and someone pointed me to the book Outliers of Malcolm Gladwell that she was apparently reading. So she gave me the book and I started reading, and right from the first chapter I realized it gives a new point of view additional or contrary of the Principles of Success as described by Napoleon Hill. And no, while writing I realize that it is not really contrary to the Principles of Success of Napoleon Hill, the things I have been following for quite a while now, but it shines some new light on why some people are more successful than others, or why you (read ‘I’) sometimes feel something isn’t right, something like that the Principles of Success can’t explain why e.g. Bill Gates is so super rich, so super successful.

And the book indeed explains why Bill Gates has been somehow ‘lucky’ being so extraordinary successful. And also explains why Andrew Carnegie achieved such unimaginable success. The explains that those people indeed were talented, worked hard and things like that. But it also explains that related to those people some more things like time and circumstances were in their favor.

And the books starts with a very simple sample that we all know, that there are early students and late students, related to the ‘cut off date’ that schools, or actually governments, set, that cause some students in the same year, the same grade, are older, months older than other students. And of course in later life a few months don’t really matter. But based on research it can be proved that those few months just make the difference for some people to pass the mark for ‘next stage’ in something, where other people don’t pass that mark. And in many areas of life, that ‘passing the mark’ means that you get more coaching or time or whatever that makes the difference bigger. And depending on the situation it means that in some areas those who have the advantage can be successful in that area and that those who don’t have the advantage have no chance in being successful in that specific area.

And it was quite comforting for me to read why Bill Gates has been so much more successful than I have been. As e.g. he was just in the right age bracket to jump on the ‘computer band wagon’ and be extraordinary successful. And I am just something like eight years older, meaning that I was just too late to jump on the bandwagon that Bill Gates and some other people, including Steve Jobs, to be ‘really successful’ in the ‘computer world’.

So this book, the ideas in this book of course mean that I am thinking what that means for the Principles of Success, for this site that is built around the Principles of Success. Like the book certainly confirms that ‘luck’ is somehow involved in being successful.

But looking at the Principles of Success as described by Napoleon Hill my gut feel says that the Principles of Success he describes still apply. And that these new insights just explains some of the reasons why some people are so extraordinary successful. As indeed, what I always felt, it appears that there is something involved in the extreme success that some people have. But that certainly doesn’t mean that applying the Principles of Success is invalid or something. And it also doesn’t mean that not anybody could achieve the success that those really successful people have had.

And thinking further, maybe Napoleon Hill does explain it, maybe it is included. As indeed, Napoleon Hill acknowledges something like Infinite Intelligence, some higher power helping us to achieve success, if we are open to it.

Know thyself

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I am more and more amazed with myself, as it seems I am having more and more self confidence and seem to know myself much better than before. And strange, to put the label ‘visionary’ on yourself, as to me visionaries are very important successful people and I am not, or at least not yet. And also you don’t put positive labels like ‘visionary’ on yourself as ‘doing normal, then you do good enough’ as the Dutch say (and I am Dutch and grew up like that).

But I am more and more confirmed that indeed I am a visionary, like today a friend even confirmed that. And before I always wanted to be a manager, as I thought that was a leader, and as I thought as I know now, that is what I was supposed to be as that is how I feel and felt. But people didn’t see me as a manager and as I know now I am not a manager, at least not a good one. And I am not sure I am a leader, but I guess in the end at least the term visionary fits and knowing that makes me feel much more comfortable as now I don’t ‘have to’ be a manager or a leader. I can just be myself.

So what my partner always said and apparently saw is that indeed I didn’t know myself well enough. And everything around me seems to confirm that my new role, my new title fits me better than anything before. As somehow people are starting to listen to me, are starting to take me seriously. And the strange thing is that my ideas are more crazy than ever, even more crazy than I could ever imagine. But somehow it fits, somehow I am, I have to be this crazy guy with these crazy ideas. And I am not ashamed of that anymore and I understand more why people have difficulty understanding and following these things. As they are just built differently, built to be a manager, or maybe a worker or a leader. And not a visionary, not the crazy guy.

And yes, all of this makes me much happier. And it shows.