Inspiration for Success
About inspiration, motivation and success
Again I managed to do all the (work) things I planned today. And I sent the daily quote and I’m writing here now.
And I had a nice evening with friends, so I guess it’s enough as sometimes you just need to say it’s enough.
But yes, I will still also update my more personal blog on op weg naar success.
Implementing the Principles of Success or at least working on planning and discipline seem to start to pay off as even today, when I started kind of late and had the feeling I had planned too much for the day I still managed to do everything I planned,even though, again, I ended very late. Like right now it’s almost 2 am, so actually time to relax and sleep.
And maybe the most important thing I am doing the last few days is NOT doing things. Like I was very much affected with what Globe and Smart, my Internet Service Providers and the two biggest. and in many areas basically only, Internet Service Providers in The Philippines are doing. And it kind of ruled my life, like everywhere. When doing work, when doing private things on the internet,when reading my IFS e-mails, when reading and writing in Facebook.
And it still kind of does, as right now I am too scared to open my IFS e-mail and I am too scared to open my Facebook account. As I know I am easily carried away with this stuff, unorganized writing and complaining. So yes, I am not opening it from fear, but maybe even more to make sure I won’t be carried away with it and ending up being very emotional about it.
So I am planning my actions more about it. And other actions. And I started to plan further in the future. Like the last one and a half year I have kind of been living from day to day, planning from day to day, too scared or whatever to look in the future, towards the future. But yes, I organized my days through the segment intending and daily to-do lists. And a few weeks ago, somehow in a kind of natural way, I started to look further ahead. Plan things a few days away. And actually it is starting to work out fine, as now I just plan things, things I like and things I don’t like. Like I didn’t feel like writing my second letter to Mr. Cu of Globe and Mr. Nazareno of Smart. But I planned some things around it, like creating a draft a week ago or so and an updated draft two days ago and today I had planned something like to finish it. And I just did, even though I didn’t feel like it anymore.
So yes, I need to plan reading my IFS e-mail and my Facebook. But not NOW, just tomorrow or Sunday or Monday. And I am more careful what to plan, what to write on my to-do list for a day. And how to write it, like often I write also things like ‘maybe do this’ or ‘if it fits my schedule’. So I won’t pressure myself into ‘impossible’ plannings. And yes, sometimes I just skip things, don’t do things I planned. But not so often anymore. And it’s a good feeling.
So yes, I’m on the way, on a better way.
My partner was just very angry and unreasonable and fortunately I was able to stay calm, even though I gave in in the end to something he wanted, even though I did not agree. And I always give in as I don’t know any other way (yet).
So I found myself kind of frustrated and also with some kind of withheld, even though slowly I see that this is just what he believes, his view how the world should be, like me supporting and serving him in everything. And I know in general I do much more than he does. And mostly I don’t mind as that’s how he feels (and I feel). But no, not easy if you feel there is so little coming back, that many of my needs are not being met.
But yes, I’m learning how to deal with things better. And my recent actions around planning, learning to plan, sticking to my daily plans, just doing the things I planned for today and not doing the things I planned for tomorrow or next week, help me. So yes, applying the principles of success like sticking to decisions and making a planning and writing things down and trying to listen to Infinite Intelligence, my inner voice, are slowly helping me to be more happy. As I guess in the end that’s what it’s all about.
So while sending my daily quote I played some music I liked. And I realized that this music, this kind of violent, aggressive music has been made by people who are ‘in flow’. So I saw the drummer and the singer and the mixer in my mind doing their thing, creating this beautiful thing they call music that I can play right here, just touching some buttons and dials. And I tried to suck in the energy that had gone out while taking in the anger of my partner an hour or so ago. And at first I tried to let it flow,flow out again, but it made me even feel more empty. But then I realized I was just empty and that it was OK to just let it in, suck it in, filling up the energy that had gone out while taking in the anger and unreasonable demands of my partner. So apparently taking in anger takes energy, an enormous amount of energy.
And yes, I know that just giving anger in return, getting angry at the other person, especially with my partner, just will make things worse, like fighting fire with fire, which in general is not a good idea, although of course sometimes it can be an option.
So then, while resting a bit from work, I tried to find some diversion and thought I might just check quotes related to ‘deal with anger’. So I ended up in Google seeing something like:
“The first key to leadership was self-control, particularly the mastery of pride, which was something more difficult, he explained, to subdue than a wild lion and anger, which was more difficult to defeat than the greatest wrestler. He warned them that “if you can’t swallow your pride, you can’t lead”.” ― Jack Weatherford.
And it appealed to me so I went to quotes about anger management and found the quote I sent today:
“The best fighter is never angry.” ― Laozi.
And of course the ‘never angry’ is unreasonable, as humans are humans. And I guess I still have a lot of pride. But it seems I’m on the right way, becoming a better human being, maybe able to lead others to a better world and more happiness.
But it’s not always easy.
So what do you want to be? A leader or a follower?
I thought I was not good in planning, but it seems that I am starting to learn. And it is weird to see that it appears that planning makes my life easier, more relaxed. As e.g. when I am finished with the plan for the day I am just finished.
And my planning comes with some decision power. As for the last few months I try not to change decisions after I make them. And also that makes life easier, as I don’t have to think so much, I don’t doubt so much anymore. As when I have planned something, decided to do something, I will normally just do it, even though it sometimes feels weird. And yes, I still tend to plan too many things, too many things in one day. So I still get tired from overload. And then indeed I sometimes just stop, don’t do anything anymore, which still kind of makes me feel guilty.
But somehow the ideas of Napoleon Hill as written down in Think and Grow Rich are starting to make sense to me, are starting to help me. And recently even make me feel much stronger.
And still, one of the most powerful things I experience is the coming alive of my desire document. And no, I didn’t make all the dates there. But yes, it helps me keep on track and it is very weird to see it come alive. Very weird.
So yes, recently I also started reading it aloud again. And sometimes I don’t feel it, don’t feel anything. But mostly I see and feel the things written there come alive. And yes, it is kind of a self fulfilling prophecy, as one of the weird things that is happening around that is that it gives positive meaning to events that I would normally consider negative.
So yes, again, I can certainly recommend to make a written statement on your definite purpose or your goals and dreams in life. As one other major thing I also got from the ideas as written down by Napoleon Hill: if you just have one goal or definite purpose and stick to it, only two things can happen: you reach your goal or you die while being on the way to it. And talking about lifetimes the first is much more likely to happen than the second. As most people overestimate what they could achieve in one year and underestimate how much they can achieve in ten year. And being fifty now I can state that ten year is not that long. And that in one lifetime there are mostly multiple periods of ten year.
So yes, better just stick to your goal and reach it. And yes, if you failed, or better say you were defeated, just set your sails once more on the way to your goal(s) and with this type of mindset it is very unlikely not to reach your goal. I promise you.
The last weeks have been tiring because of my internet problems at home, in my office. And especially the message from my main internet Service Provider, Smart, hit me hard. I understood that I would either need to bear with my bad connection or look for another service provider.
And my fear is that i will never have internet access again from my home, from my office again. But of course that’s not true.
And this whole thing of a company that has served me so well for many years suddenly telling me they don’t want me anymore hit me hard as a person. And yes, I know it’s business and solving the technical problem might be expensive as it seems that the current technical solution is at it’s limit due to changes in the environment or something. But especially with internet access you don’t have so many options, especially in some locations like mine, where as far as i know Smart is basically the only, or at least the best option.
And it also hit me hard as for me it has been always very hard to find customers. So I am sometimes stunned when companies are not accepting me, not accepting all customers or just refuse to serve them, even if they could.
And i am still wondering if it’s just me and my situation and my choice to live here are causing these kind of problems. But even then, even if I were the only one, then why not just find a solution and get me back online again? I know I am ‘just’ one of the many, many customers from Smart and they could easily do without me. But the risk is they may lose me forever as a customer and e.g. writing here could do some damage to their brand, their name.
And the more I look around me I see businesses not serving their customers as well as they could, or as i think they should. And it keeps me thinking why those businesses are successful and why mine is not, especially lately, where I decided to put more focus on customer satisfaction, on really doing my best to serve my customers the best I can. But somehow the Universe doesn’t seem to make that easier, as lately, without decent internet access at home, I often had to go to the city, to an internet cafe to do or finish my work.
And it makes me think of what Napoleon Hill states “I fully realize that no wealth or position can long endure, unless built upon trugh and justice; therefore, I will engage in no transaction which does not benefit all whom it affects.”. So this must apply to Smart and the people within and the leaders of Smart. But as of the moment I’m not sure, as them leaving me behind and not solving the problems with my connection certainly doesn’t benefit me. And not solving it also doesn’t benefit them.
And next to this I have been thinking what this adversity, this heartache carries for me in equivalent or greater benefit. As a famous quote of Napoleon Hill is also “Every adversity, every failure and every heartache carries with it the Seed of an equivalent or a greater Benefit”. But right now I just don’t see it, even though I am starting to see that this whole exercise that started with receiving and reading Think and Grow Rich makes me look more for the opportunities and somehow makes my mindset more positive.
And I am sorry as this post is a bit chaotic. But I’m just human, just like you and me, and just very tired of this additional setback, where just as I had found some new customers, just started some new projects, I lost my normal internet access that caused me an awful lot of hassle and cost me an awful lot of time.
And I am still amazed with all those people who didn’t read Think and Grow Rich, who didn’t think about their definite purpose or goals in life, who didn’t make it specific, where I did. And they seem so much happier or more easy going than me. It seems that I’m just struggling, still struggling, like I have done most of my life. The road towards success seems so endless, so tiring, so exhausting.
But yes, I also often forget how far I have gotten. When writing my desire document the most important thing I wrote in there was impossible. And now it’s just there and only one and a half year passed. And indeed, I didn’t even really do much effort for it.
And yes, the idea of having your life, the rest of your life, to reach your goal, your definite purpose, is very comforting. The idea of just not giving up until you get there, no matter what. That’s a very powerful idea and often keeps me going.
What about you? Did you write down your goal or goals and set specific dates for them? And do you read your desire document aloud every day? Did you even think about your definite purpose in life? If not, you may want to do that, as when reading my desire document now, it has come alive and gives me structure and shows me how i can look at things like those internet troubles i have right now.
So yes, you may consider that, even though I’m not the most successful person ever yet. But somehow, no matter my complaints, I am stronger now and am still gaining strength, by just doing those things, taking time to think about those things.
So better start now.
And yes, I found the courage to get moving again today and fortunately internet seems to work good enough in the afternoon right now.