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Lots of things in my mind

Rita Hayworth A lot of things in my mind right now. Like I am still a bit sick and could’t sleep last night, mainly because of my coughing. And the result was that I got out of bed very late, also partly because I still didn’t feel well. And next to this I was thinking that last night I wanted to write about the movie The Shawshank Redemption. A fantastic film, especially knowing now the Principles of Success from Napoleon Hill as I see the main character, Andy Dufresne, applying many of those principles to achieve what he wants to achieve. And despite the enormous setbacks he encounters and the enormous amount of time involved, he achieves what he wants to achieve. So that’s what I would call a success story.

And one of the strange things about the movie is that it is based on a short story of Stephen King. And I don’t like the books of Stephen King so much as they are too full of horror type things, horror kind of believable to happen in real life.

Ah, and I now see the story is much older and based on God Sees the Truth, But Waits by Leo Tolstoy. And it seems that story is about forgiveness, something I have been thinking about for quite a while now. So no wonder I am and was impressed by the story and the film as apparently it has a very long history and a deep background.

And yes, thinking about forgiveness I can relate to the film, where it doesn’t seem to make any sense to lock up people for a very long time as you just destroy them. That is a similar thing I am struggling with, as I borrowed a lot of money, which I don’t know how to pay back as of the moment and it feels kind of unfair to me that I have to suffer so much for mistakes I made in the past. Yes, to me it also feels like a lifetime sentence, the situation I am in now with my debts. And it doesn’t make any sense, it even takes away most of my joy in life. And that’s even what people are complaining about, that I should have more fun, join friends more, go out more. But for me there is always that debt that I feel I need to pay back. So I’d rather save money than have fun.

So how can we get out of those things? How can we go out of those lifetime sentences? How can we really forgive people and let them free?

Late again

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It is late again, but this time a bit a different reason than usual, as for the last few days I have been a bit ill, which meant I couldn’t sleep because my nose was clogged and I was coughing in a very bad way. And even right now I don’t know exactly what to do, as I’m not sure if I can sleep with my cough, even though I feel better than yesterday.

And with this all, even being a bit sick, I feel still very calm and sure about my daily planning, my daily to-do list. As I know I am going to finish it, no matter what. So again, what I think I wrote before one of these days, something has changed, somehow I am more confident, more calm, feel more secure. And it shows also I guess, in private as well as business conversations. As tonight I had a very open discussion about my private life, my private challenges, with someone who I don’t know that long yet and who is actually a business contact, a customer. But she feels good and I am trusting my inner being a lot more now about what to do and whom to trust, contrary to before, where I mostly listened to my partner or other friends about what to do, what to tell and whom to trust.

So there must be some truth in the suggestion of Napoleon Hill to shield yourself from the opinion of other people, especially the people closest to you. As apparently I am starting to do that and it feels good, it feels great and it gives me a more overall feeling of confidence. And there must be something in this discipline and planning thing, like “plan the work and work the plan” as even though my planning is very minimal, just ‘working it’ gives me, again, a feeling of self confidence.

And yes, my partner is gone (again), emotionally as well as physically, but again, the suggestion related to the fear of loss of love to then ‘just do without love’ has made me less vulnerable to all kinds of emotions of despair. And keep in mind, this is still not easy for me, as love, relationship and the related idea of having a home, are the most important things in my life, as they are for most people I guess. But I am also starting to see that the more relaxed and easy I am about this, the more likely it will be that things will be okay. As desperately clinging to your partner or something is probably not something your partner likes.

So yes, despite I was ill and was kind of desperate the last few nights, not being able to sleep and feeling alone, right now I feel pretty good, pretty okay.

So there must be something in all those ideas, those Principles of Success. As since I started working from the book Think and Grow Rich, and yes, also some other books and sites, it seems somehow my life is getting better, at least I have gained a lot of self confidence. And no, I’m not ‘there’ yet. But if there is a road to ‘there’, than I am certainly on a road leading there.

So if you are interested in those principles, you might want to sign up to the tools section of this site and put your score on each of the Principles of Success. As that may give you some insight on what areas in your life you would want to improve, change things.

The impossible becoming possible

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Am becoming more and more amazed that some of the things I thought about and wrote about one or two years ago, which seemed to be completely crazy and impossible at the time I thought about it and did some initial action on, right now somehow are coming to life, somehow seem to at least become possible, a possibility.

And still, behind this are somehow the ideas of Napoleon Hill, the idea of having a definite purpose in life and writing it down, the idea of never giving up, the idea of just starting again if the whole thing falls apart or if you miss a date. The idea of Infinite Intelligence helping when you believe and persist in what you want. And yes, also one of his quote that is almost always on my mind: “Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed on an equal or greater benefit.” – Napoleon Hill.

And it’s a whole site of ideas coming together that helps me now. As e.g. this quote of Napoleon Hill, together with the idea of Abraham Hicks that everything is energy and that there is a continuous flow of energy coming to all of us, makes me kind of see inside that I can convert any energy flowing to me in a positive way. As I since a few weeks, months, just imagine any negative energy coming to me being being converted by me into something positive by me. So if someone is angry with me e.g., is sending negative energy, I just ‘take’ this energy and flow it out in a way that I consider positive.

And yes, what keeps it all together is the desire document I wrote, now almost two years ago. As slowly virtually everything that happens to me is fitted in this desire document. And as the document is stated in a positive way, everything that happens becomes some kind of opportunity towards the goals I stated in my desire document. So in the end it’s also ‘just’ some kind of psychological effect, writing and reading (aloud) something like a desire document.

And no, I can’t fully explain how it works, or at least how it worked and works for me. And yes, while writing this I realize my desire document even has kindled my desire, the thing I thought I didn’t have or didn’t have anymore. And yes, there is something like autosuggestion going on here.

So as of now, even though I still don’t feel happy and certainly not successful, I can certainly recommend you start with making your own desire document. You can even use the back-end of the site now to make a start with that, as the basic steps for making a desire document are available now in the tools section of this site. And even though that part of the site is still very limited, you may just want to put your data, your definite purpose and what you are willing to give and a date there. Just to start on the road to your success.

Failure?

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So today was my first real failure with my planning. Or should I call it defeat? As I had made a mistake planning a meeting with someone and didn’t put something like ‘maybe’ or ‘if pushes through’. And it looked all so good, as I was in continuous contact with the person who had set up the meeting and we even met, waiting for the third person, the person it was all about. And in the end it turned out he had become ill and had gone to the hospital, to his doctor. So I made a remark to my partner that maybe we should go there, as I had made this part of my planning and did not fail for the last few weeks or even months doing the things I had planned for the day. And then the comment I got in return kind of hit me, as he kind of looked at me as if I were crazy, trying to push something through when someone was just ill. So at that moment I kind of decided to back down and just accepted that this meeting was not going to happen. And accepting that I had really failed today, something I had been very scared of for the last few weeks, months.

But somehow nothing really happened. Or actually a lot of good things happened. As another remark of the person with me was that if I would be so stubborn to push through with this, he would not entertain me anymore, as he considered it very bad to bother this person being ill just because of my planning. And I think he was right, even though I felt tempted to indeed push through and see this person, even for just one minute, just to make my point, just to prove to myself that I can indeed “plan the work and work the plan”. And of course I could have, but at that moment I decided to not push through and accept failure, which should have been a big thing, but actually wasn’t. And I was a bit amazed with that, as this has been a moment I have dreaded for quite a while. And behind it was just fear, fear to fall back to not finishing things I had planned, fear to go back to being unsuccessful. And right now I know also that that is not going to happen, right now I know that I am going to continue on this road toward leadership and success. And right now I am actually getting very emotional, as somehow it seems, it feels, deep inside, that I have decided to this time not give up. And that this small failure, that is not even a real failure, but just temporary defeat as the meeting will probably push through tomorrow, does not count, not at all.

So thank you Michael, for all the things you said today, about my little stupid childish ‘failure’ that wasn’t even a real failure. And especially for reminding me that I am human, and that humans make mistakes, are sometimes defeated and can also even fully fail.

Late and planning and discipline

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It is strange to see how somehow my behavior changed with planning and discipline. As it is very late right now and I even forgot one of the items on my list today. Unfortunately it was not a big thing so I just finished it in a few minutes.

And the weirdest change is that I don’t question anymore whether I’m going to do things or not. If I planned it as a real to-do item without any maybe or something, I’ll just do it. And staying at a party tonight was in that way also a deliberate choice. I just balanced enjoying at the party against still writing this post tonight, sending my daily quote and updating my Dutch blog right now, after this.

And yes, sometimes I will just minimize things, like just writing a short post here. Or indeed if it is very late or if I get the feeling I planned too many days on a day I will also shorten the time I planned, or the effort. And sometimes, very sometimes even do things ‘in the spirit’ and not really as I think I ‘should’ do them. But the last is very rare.

So yes, something has changed, somehow. Somehow I have developed a habit of finishing things. And I’m still not sure if I’m really happy with it or if it really will bring me success, but something changed and somehow it feels good.