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Listen to your body

Not sure what is going on as I just feel tired and nothing really seems to work today. Maybe my body is just telling me that it’s enough, that I should slow down a bit or something, as I may have been pushing myself a lot the last few weeks, even though it didn’t feel like that.

So I guess I’ll just call it quits for now and just take a rest for now.

And maybe you should do the same if your body tells you to stop. As about two weeks ago my body really said ‘stop’ and I ended up in the emergency room of the hospital.

Bodies know, you know?

River of poverty, or richess

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Tonight in a conversation and the last few days, weeks, the image of the river of poverty/riches as described by Napoleon Hill came into my mind quite a few times. As somehow it feels like I have moved myself or am moving from the down stream side to the up stream side, even though I don’t see any sign of real money coming my way. But somehow I do feel different, somehow I did gain a lot of confidence, self confidence, recently. Somehow I conquered or am conquering my fear or my fears. As right now somehow I am really worried, as right now I don’t have any real income, no actual projects to work on, at least not from Active Discovery, at least not paid. But unlike before the feeling is different. Yes, I do feel a little uncomfortable, but somehow I know I did the right thing, like focusing on customer satisfaction, focusing on the customer, focusing on service. And it did pay off, as a few days ago I got the message from one of my customers, my main customer for the last few months, that his people were very happy with the data entry system that I have built. And keep in mind, this is and was one of the most difficult customers I have ever encountered. And it has not been easy to fulfill his needs, even though, especially looking back, his needs are very normal and reasonable from his point of view. So yes, I felt very proud and satisfied with that compliment, even though it didn’t result in any more work from him, or any references (yet).

More amazing was, that I found that his most recent venture seems to be life coaching, a bit related to what I am trying to do with this site, with Inspiration for Success, and am also trying to do in life in general, when meeting people. And his site, his work, Ga voor goud, seems to be a bit the standard type coaching stuff which can be found anywhere on the internet, but somehow, while checking the content, it seems he is really into this. And that amazes me a bit, as I never imagined that type of more ‘soft’, social stuff from him, like he mentions e.g. meditation. As he appears to be a pretty ‘business type’ business man, mainly commercial. But looking at his site Ga voor goud, there must be more. So there is often more to people than meets the eye…

But I am getting a bit off my subject, the subject of going ‘downstream’, towards poverty (or mishap or misery or…), or going ‘upstream’, towards riches (or happiness, ‘luck’ or …).

So amazingly, even though in my real life nothing really changed, maybe even got worse related to business and finance, I am realizing more and more that somehow my mindset has changed. That somehow I am much, much more self confident, much, much more confident that what I am doing is the right thing. And next to this I am much more focused on ‘positive’, on seeing the positive side of everything. And somehow the Universe, the world, the people around me, seem to respond to that. Somehow indeed by just looking at the positive, expecting the positive, the positive also happens, happens in my life. So somehow I am getting more and more confirmed that ‘thoughts’, whether positive or negative or whatever, not only attract similar thoughts, but also attract similar events, similar responses from the environment, from people.

Amazing, isn’t it?

Success consciousness

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I never really understood the idea of success consciousness, but especially recently I am starting to feel more and more success… conscious. And I still can’t fully figure out how it happened, even though I know it started somewhere in my deepest down in life around two years ago, towards the end of the year 2012. And, if you have read more here you will know, it started somehow with the book Think and Grow Rich from Napoleon Hill. And while writing this I realize I often think I never got my ‘break’, the thing I believe most or all successful people have. But maybe this was just my ‘break’, meeting Napoleon Hill and his ideas about how to achieve success. And maybe was the person who gave me the book, actually lent me his, the person who gave me my break. As I also believe there must be some person giving someone his or her ‘break’ towards success. But no, while writing this it was not really like that, but please note how I somehow am looking very positively at that event, where before I would just have not realized how a simple event like lending someone a book could be something very special, something very positive.

And that is what I notice more and more, how I see most things happening to me now as a positive, as the Universe helping me to achieve success, where before I was just annoyed, as I guess most people are, when I had to wait for something or if things don’t turn out the way I expected them to be. Like today I was in such a situation where my two meetings, the main reason I went to the city for, were cancelled, postponed. And before I would just be annoyed and would end up in a very bad mood. But today I just thought that something better must be on the way, that there must be a reason for the delay. And it doesn’t mean that that feeling of being annoyed is not really there and it didn’t mean I didn’t try to push through with the meetings, but I just left it to the Universe, to the other people to decide whether they would still be able or want to entertain me. And I just went my way, did my errands, enjoyed the extra time I had, relaxed a bit and finally decided to just go home. Or not go home, as I decided to visit an acquaintance I wanted to visit already for quite some time, but never really did. And that person was not there, but his brother was, and he offered me a cup of coffee, which I decided to take. And he didn’t really seem to want to entertain me, but when he was out for a smoke another visitor and me found ourselves having a nice chat.

So yes, something I never realized before, never wanted to believe before, most or maybe even all what happens to us, or at least the way it happens to us or what we do with it, how we feel about it, is just in the mind. And if your mindset is negative, you will experience negative, as if your mindset is negative you will focus on the negative, and more important, your environment will react to it, will indeed join you in your vibration, as Abraham Hicks often points it out so nice. And there is not even a real secret to it. Just imagine what would have happened if I had reacted to my cancelled, my postponed meetings in a negative way, in a disappointed or frustrated way. I would have just been annoyed or angry. Or just blame the other parties for not keeping to their agreement with me. So I would have reacted differently to the other people I met, I would have behaved differently, would have done different things, something like finishing my errands in stress and trying to go home as quickly as possible or something. So I would feel right now that I had a bad day, a shitty day and I would have probably experienced that other people had reacted very different to me, in my angry, annoyed mood. And I would certainly not have visited my friends place, meaning no coffee and no nice chat.

And don’t get me wrong, I can still get annoyed and I was certainly not happy while I was just on the way and my first meeting partner cancelled the meeting. And also not when my second meeting partner also wanted to postpone the meeting, meaning that I could have just skipped my visit to the city, something that still involves quite some time and effort as I don’t have a car. But I quickly changed my thoughts, starting indeed with the thought that there must be a good reason for this and that the Universe had its reasons for what happened, maybe even meeting that person I met the end of the day.

Please note that if you are still more into the negative thinking and don’t understand those things yet, those things took me more than half a life time to learn, to understand, to experience. But if even a hard headed person like me can turn around and learn to see the positive side of things, I’m sure you also can learn this. As it seems it’s just a learned skill, a habit, that can be learned, acquired by just a little bit of practice. And yes, step one is awareness, be aware of your thoughts. Once you got there, the rest is relatively easy.

Breakdown

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So last night I had a complete breakdown, even though I was much more conscious of what was going on with me than ever before, so somehow I made a deliberate choice to stay in this state of, well, not sure what word would be applicable. Maybe something like ‘complete opposition’ or something. So I decided not to send the daily inspirational quote and not to write my posts. Which is a big thing to me, so you can imagine how I felt, how annoyed I was.

And it all started somewhere like last Saturday, when I decided not to pay the helper. As my partner, as usual, had decided to stay away longer than he planned. And as the last months I decided it is easier to deal with my partner, with our budget, by just giving all, or actually most, of the income to my partner, I had no budget left. As he had left me only budget for a few days, which was actually not even enough, especially because I had a large hospital bill last week. For which I withdrew money from the ‘floating cash’ as I call it. Actually meaning I was just plainly borrowing money, as that money is not mine, it is money in transfer to be deposited to our company.

And I am a bit hesitant writing all this, as it is very private and should not be in the open. It should be dealt with by my partner and me discussing it. But until now I, or maybe I should say we, did not find a way to deal with our budget issues, which kind of worries me, as in the end I always gave in and borrowed money again (indirectly, that is important to know, so there is no actual borrowing from ‘someone’). As of course you need to eat. And the dogs need to be fed. And the helper needs to be paid. And yes, last Monday, the medical bills needed to be paid.

Anyhow, all those details about the issues my partner and me have are not really relevant to what I wanted to write. But it may give some background on the behavior I chose yesterday. As as usual my partner made some remarks like ‘if you behave like that I better not come home’ and such. Meaning I felt like ‘here we go again’. And don’t get me wrong, I am doing much better with all of this, mainly based on the ideas of Kim Cooper. But sometimes, like the last few days, especially yesterday when my partner actually came back, I just feel like I’m back at square one. Or at least have no clue what to do to improve the situation. As no matter what I do, my partner seems to stay in this state of “it’s your fault”, including completely withdrawing from everything related to me.

So I just decided to write about it. And while doing so I at least I realize more and more that it’s not my fault, that it has nothing to do with me. As it’s just especially my partner having a terrible mood or not knowing how to deal with things. And apparently this is just his way of dealing with it. Just as I did by just going to bed last night and staying there. As no place in the house felt ‘safe’, meaning a place my partner wouldn’t find any reason to put more blame on me.

And going back to you I think my main reason for writing about this is that I have improved, a lot, to dealing with my partners bad behavior, even though sometimes, like last night, I still break down and don’t exactly know what to do, except hide. But at least this time I made a more deliberate choice, like deciding that I would not do my daily ‘inspirational things’, even though that was a big thing to me. And right now I am trying to convince myself that it’s okay to do that, that it was okay last night to put myself above my obligations to other people, as I feel I have an obligation to send my daily inspirational quote. And maybe most that I am not perfect, something I often try to be, like pushing myself to do the things I planned to do.

So please don’t be perfect, be human.

A little stressed and tired

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Today I was a little bit stressed and tired. And I am not fully sure why, as I had a good weekend and ‘should have’ (imagine what I am stating here) been fully rested and such (for the new week). And while writing this I am starting to realize more and more how crazy it is what I am writing here, as why should a weekend day be that different, or at least ‘better’ than a weekday.

I still believe life should be enjoyed, and somehow we have programmed the world to make a separation between ‘work’ and ‘pleasure’. How crazy can we be?

And yes, I guess in ancient times ‘work’ might have been really necessary just to survive. But I doubt if ‘work’ (hunting and such) was considered as stressful as most (working) people consider it today.

And yes, I do take breaks, as you may or may not know that on Sundays I normally don’t send my daily quote and I don’t write my (daily) blog posts and neither do I update my gratitude diary. And on Sundays I normally don’t work, I normally don’t turn on my (working) computer. As indeed I believe that humans need something like a weekly break from their daily routine. And yes, I often feel obligations as ‘work’ or ‘stress’, including my daily activities related to Inspiration for Success. And yes, I ‘worked’ yesterday, because I just felt like it, because I just thought it was fun to turn on my computer and do some work type stuff.

So well, it seems we have something interesting here, because the question rises if my ‘working’ on yesterday was (part of) my stress today. And I don’t know the answer to that, as there are some other stress things going on right now, which I think have much more influence on me than the stuff I did yesterday and I did not consider ‘work’.

Still interesting how I started this post, the thought of separating ‘work’ and ‘pleasure’ as most of us normally do. And how we should deal with that in the future. As I believe humanity somehow has past the point of ‘needing to work’, probably deeply rooted in the ideas of the bible, the bible that I believe still defines most of our culture, at least Western culture.

So let’s think a bit more about this and how to organize this. As that is one of the main reasons for this blog, this site: not linking ‘work’ and ‘income/money’ to ‘fulfilling needs and wants’. As these things have nothing to do with each other, at least not anymore, in 2014.