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It’s starting

So where do I stand right now? I still certainly don’t feel successful, especially as my financial situation is still not good and as my partner went away again two weeks ago, very angry. And while I kept going very well since he left, better than ever, yesterday I kind of collapsed emotionally.

But still, somehow my self confidence has grown enormously since my deep down one and a half year ago, the period where the ideas of Napoleon Hill came to me in the form of a book given to me, the book Think and Grow Rich. And somehow these ideas, or at least working from these ideas, from this book, seem to start making sense. And no, it’s not the only book that gave me ideas to work from, but somehow it was the starting point.

So yes, I was very down yesterday. But imagine, yesterday, not the whole two weeks I was alone, where before I was much more affected with these type of things. And also, the idea of definite purpose and not changing decisions (too easily) makes life much easier, including stating dates and stuff and what I am willing to give. As e.g. I now don’t have to think so much anymore when people are asking me things like what I want and why I want it. As it’s just all written down in my desire document and everything that happens to me just gets its place in the ideas that written down there. And I really mean everything that happens to me, positive or negative. As the negatives I just turn into positives, into opportunities. That is my mindset now.

And somehow it is starting to pay off, as today I had some discussions about business, really large business, business in the sense of the things Napoleon Hill writes about in Think and Grow Rich. And somehow these things came to me, I did not really search for it or did effort for it. So indeed there seems to be something like Infinite Intelligence or Law of Attraction that goes beyond what we can see. But the main thing I felt today was more self confidence, like just stating what I want, without excuses or anything, even if it is unreasonable. And apparently just the way I talk about things, just the way how I want things, just stating what I want to happen seems to make an enormous impression on other people. And again, I’m not forcing it, it just comes natural, it’s just the result of the process I’ve been in for the last few years.

So no, I definitely don’t feel successful yet. But something did change, and it is changing big. And yes, of course I am also still scared, but different.

Thank you Lord!

Responsibility and guilt

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So yesterday I wrote about responsibility and faults. And yes, I started with inspiration and passion. That was even the name I gave the post. And another word that stayed with me since yesterday is guilt. So maybe the question is how to get from faults and guilt to responsibility and maybe from there to passion and inspiration. Or maybe how to go from negative to positive.

And somehow things people said to me in the past stick in my mind. Things like I have a negative life attitude, a negative outlook in life. Or I’m a negative person. And my partner is often annoyed with me because “I’m me”. And I know it’s not true, because if there is one person in the world looking for the good, for the positive, it’s me. So how come my environment, the people in my environment see me different, experience me different? And how do most people experience my partner as positive, as happy, where in private he is very demanding and blames me for everything that is wrong? And where I even experience him as abusive and a very angry person? And I think I am, or at least used to be, the responsible one (in the relationship). Or maybe not, as I gave in too much, way too much.

And one of the reasons why I am where I am is because I believe in the good. I believe that people deep down are all good. Which indeed is often not confirmed with what I experience from people, especially the last few years, mostly in business, but also in private matters. So what makes people ‘bad’ or ‘act bad’? And that reminds me of the movie The Kingdom, that indeed ends with the question “What would you tell your grandson if you were him?”. And yes, the most obvious answer is to tell him to kill all Americans, to look for revenge. But is that the answer?

And yes, I know that my answers of silence and not reacting and not retaliating and accepting and tolerating may not be the right answers either. As it has put me down, cost me a lot, financially as well as emotionally. And it doesn’t seem help to solve things. But that’s also still also how Jesus lived his life, a person who’s attitude I admire very much, although while writing this now I also remember the story where he attacks the traders and the priests in the temple. So he did not only say that if someone slaps your left cheek to turn your right cheek to him, which I think I often, maybe too often, do.

So how to continue here, as I want this site, this post to be useful. And again, I was told by someone that articles, that posts should answer questions, not ask them. And that’s how most ‘self help’ sites are built.That’s how I presume how most articles are written. But I don’t have the answers, I don’t have success yet, I am not successful yet. And yes, it’s so easy to tell people what to do if you are ‘there’ already. Thinks like persistence and stand up when you are defeated and such. And when you are ‘there’ it is also so easy to confirm the Principles of Success and things. And is it not true that there are many more people unsuccessful than successful? And is it not so that many people get rich at the cost of other people?

And yes, somehow I keep believing in The Principles of Success as described by Napoleon Hill, the ideas that were the foundation for this site. And I keep believing in what he states, that things that are not rooted in truth and justice cannot last. But looking around me I still see many things that are NOT rooted in truth and justice, so many companies and people being and getting greedy.

And it seems to pay off, as those people and companies have higher salaries and bigger cars and houses than me. And they do and can do the things I cannot do (anymore).

And yes, I am much stronger now, much stronger than ever before in my life. And I learned something like discipline. And I learned a bit how to plan. Two things that have been very hard for me most of my life. And I learned to react less emotional, I learned to postpone decisions, actions where before I often over reacted, reacted too soon. So yes, the ideas in Think and Grow Rich, the Principles of Success do seem to have value, a lot of value.

But no, I’m not happy and I miss a lot of things I used to have and I miss a lot that I know that could be, should be.

So time will tell if I will ‘get there’. And somehow I know I will.

Sick or excuse

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Well, yesterday I skipped, not only my blogs, my daily quote and my gratitude page, but I also missed my planning.

And yes, I could have done it. But in the end I didn’t, because I felt sick and exhausted. And spent most of the day in bed.

And i was a bit in doubt, as i am quite well on the way being very disciplined finishing my planning for the day. And this was even the second day in weeks now that I decided NOT to do (all) the things I planned for the day.

So I could have done it, and i guess that’s what some (successful?) people would have done. But it didn’t feel really good to do it as I really felt sick, tired, exhausted. But especially it didn’t feel inspired, inspiring.

And that’s what i miss a bit, or actually a lot. Or something like ‘the most’. Doing things in an inspired way, doing things as Abraham Hicks describes. Doing things in a way described related to the Law of Attraction.

And thinking further, this is exactly also what Napoleon Hill calls desire, desiring things, achieving things in an inspired way.

And i know I have missed this for quite a long time. And it’s kind of bothering me. And I’m not sure what to do about is, to ‘relight my fire’. And I wrote about it before, that I didn’t feel the desire (anymore).

And yes, I am working on it, reading stuff related to that. And every now and then reading my desire document again, yes aloud.

So somehow, yes, I’m getting closer. As I feel myself getting stronger. And more confident. And more capable of ‘learning’ those things, the things like planning and discipline.

So yes, somehow Think and Grow Rich brought me something. And it seems that kind of applying all of those principles, everything in the book, brings you closer. But I often wonder if so called ‘successful people’ don’t have these things more by nature. And why I have to struggle so hard. And why I’m still ‘not there’.

But time will tell. And yes, I’m getting stronger, more confident. And recently even more money came in. So somehow it works, somehow it’s starting to work.

So be confident. And persistent. And keep believing.

No matter what.

Planning and habit

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It seems I really developed a habit, the habit of finishing the daily tasks I am planning for myself for the last few weeks. And indeed, habits are strong, as today, this afternoon, the end of the afternoon I felt very tired and I was very annoyed with something that had happened earlier today. But somehow I felt the urge, more urge than usual, to do the things I had planned to do today. So I did, even though I was very sleepy and didn’t really feel like doing it.

And I am still tired and also don’t really feel like writing here. Or even sending the daily quote. But somehow I programmed myself to write, so here I am, writing again.

But the next step is creating more useful habits. As I still don’t feel satisfied most of the time, even though I am becoming very successful in all kinds of things. And I keep telling myself that this is all a build up for the success I am really looking for. And of course that is also true. But as of now it still doesn’t feel like it and I guess that’s what it is all about in life in the end: feeling good.

And I have no real clue if what I am writing here now has any use to you, to others. I do know some people like my daily quotes. And I do know the site has some traffic. But until now hardly any comments, whether positive or negative. And no real contribution from the team. So I still feel quite alone, no matter what I do and no matter how successful I am doing things and achieving things.

Ah, maybe nice to tell and that is that I had planned some time today to work on what I call the IFS Tools. So I did and I am happy to tell you that very soon you will be able to log into the site and e.g. put your goal or goals or definite purpose in the site according to the Principles of Success of Napoleon Hill. And again, I feel a bit alone with it, as in the end I just built it all myself. But yes, as long as I make progress it’s of course okay.

Still, it would be nice to do it in a team or get some feedback from readers. But yes, while writing this I know it will come. As I am starting to believe more and more that most things in life are about being persistent.

And yes, looking back, what a journey I had the last one and a half year. And it all started with the deepest down in my life and a book. Imagine.

I did it again

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I did it again today, even though somewhere during the day I realized I had planned too much. But somehow I managed to finish again all the things I planned for today and I have been doing that for a week now or so. Or maybe even a bit longer. And around fifteen minutes ago it felt as if Infinite Intelligence came to help me, as I had planned to reconnect a computer i was installing for a friend to the network again as inexplicably that computer was not able to connect to other computers anymore. But somehow I did the right things and suddenly it reconnected without re-installing anything I had planned.

So now only left this post and my Dutch post and the daily update of my gratitude page.

And somehow I still feel a little insecure if I’m not doing the same I did my whole life, like pushing through when I shouldn’t, like being very stubborn. But somehow I also feel proud and somehow I also feel I may be doing the right things in the right way, or at least in a better way. As I understand habits are very strong and proper habits would lead to success. And as far as I have read things like planning, discipline, not changing decisions easily and persistence are considered good habits. And those are the things I have been doing for the last week or so.

And I know I’m not there yet as there are some things I don’t know how to deal with. But somehow it seems have I planning much more careful now, in a way that I really can finish my planning every day. And I don’t feel really inspired at the moment, but somehow I’m proud that it seems that I have improved in planning and pushing through with it. And the main things seem to be to plan very carefully, state very carefully what I am going to do or accomplish, and to NOT do things I did not plan, but plan them somewhere else, on another day.

And one major thing that is bothering me is that it seems so little, the things I can do in one day. And another thing that is bothering me is how to deal with things that are beyond my control. And still the most difficult thing is ‘people’, how to find people to cooperate with or how to find people to do the things I want to get done. As again, it seems so little what one person in one day can do. And I know I am good at the things I do, like Internet Marketing and web development.

But yes, I guess I have reason to be proud of myself, that somehow I have been able to find a way to plan that suits me, that works, starting with a plan for one day and now a plan for a week, even though I was not able to fully extend my planning for a week the last few days. But it’s not one day anymore, so what if I can manage to extend it to a month or a year. That would be something and that is certainly my goal.

And that is where the success can start, will start.

So yes, start with one day at the time, start with a little thing like making the bed every day. And then extend it a bit. And do it slowly, very slowly. And just go back to be proud of making the bed only if you can’t make it yet.

Good luck!